Hello, dear readers of the site! Today we will talk about what constitutes an anxious personality type. We will find out his strengths and weaknesses, as well as receive recommendations on how to cope with anxiety and other feelings that he has too often.
Main features
Anxious people are also called suspicious. They panic at the slightest provocation and worry at moments when other people would not even blink an eye.
They do not know how to defend their boundaries and point of view. Therefore, companies are usually silent, afraid to say something wrong. Accordingly, this style of behavior affects self-esteem, and not in the best way.
They are submissive and timid, but sometimes, trying to hide their vulnerability, they play the role of fearless and self-confident individuals. Naturally, this discrepancy between character and behavior is immediately evident.
There are usually a lot of reasons for alarm among representatives of this character accentuation. Starting from worries about your future, health and success, and ending with worry about your loved ones.
Children in such a family are usually subjected to hyper-custody and excessive control. An anxious parent is not able to cope with his emotions, therefore he limits the freedom of the child. It’s easier when he is in front of your eyes and does only what he was allowed to do. Then there is an illusion that the child is safe.
Responsible and diligent, excellently manifest themselves as employees. The only thing is that they can endure inconvenience and unfair treatment, being afraid to say that they are not satisfied. Able to perform monotonous work without being distracted by other tasks, even if it is not at all interesting.
Friendly and welcoming. Faithful friends who will always come to the rescue, support and listen, if necessary.
They make a decision for a long time, because, being afraid to make a mistake, they carefully weigh the pros and cons. Time passes, as does the urgency of the decision, so basically it turns out that they do not make choices in their lives, but rather go with the flow. Then, at least you can shift the responsibility for failures to others, without indulging in self-blame.
Due to the fact that the nervous system is often in tension, it can sometimes fail, unable to withstand such a load. For example, in the form of the appearance of phobic disorders, depression, neurosis, and so on.
Detstvo
Anxious children are usually afraid to stay in the room if there are no adults around, do not sleep without a lamp, and literally hide under the covers from horror during a thunderstorm. They may even avoid communicating with their peers, thinking that they will tease and offend them.
Beware of dogs and other animals that are unable to cause any harm. They behave quietly at school and are very worried if the teacher is dissatisfied with their knowledge or behavior.
Unfortunately, such a style of behavior leads to the fact that such a child begins to really persecute and show aggression towards him. After all, he does not defend himself, he is easily frightened and ready to remain silent if he is blamed for other people’s pranks.
She does not hold back tears due to her vulnerability, so a strict, authoritarian parenting style should be avoided.
Recommendations
- It is important to recognize that you are overly suspicious and anxious if you really belong to this character accentuation according to Leonhard. After all, how to change if you deny the existence of a problem? Therefore, the first step is to realize that such a perception of life brings more restrictions than it helps to realize one’s potential and desires. Just don’t dwell on the fact that you are more sensitive and restless than the rest. Just recognize that there are some nuances that you need to work on and that it is quite possible to change.
- Every time you feel that you are losing control over your emotions and behavior, that feelings are “overwhelming”, connect rationality. That is, let’s say, it became very scary — instead of indulging in a panic, ask yourself clarifying questions about the subject of your fear. For example, when you hear a sharp sound, you might think that thieves are climbing in with the goal of committing another murder. And you can look for other reasons, more real. Suddenly it was just a branch that hit the window with a gust of wind?
- Given the peculiarities of the disturbing accentuation of character, a profession should be chosen one where public speaking and frequent intersection with other people are excluded. The need to meet and communicate causes tension, and unnecessary stress is best avoided.
- Correction of behavior is impossible if chaos is going on inside. That is, if emotions take over and it is hard to fall asleep from anxiety. Therefore, it is recommended to initially try to relax the nervous system. For example, engage in meditation, practice various relaxation techniques that help you find peace and a sense of peace.
- Anxiety usually arises when thinking about the future, likely unpleasant events. To bring some peace into your life, learn to notice the present. That is, reality, which may well turn out to be not so frightening, unlike fantasies.
- When panic sets in, try to continue your activity without taking breaks to surrender to thoughts completely. Work for an anxious person is the best healer, because it allows you to be distracted and stops the flow of frightening thoughts. In general, despite the emotional state, lead a familiar lifestyle.
Completion
Given that a suspicious person is usually concerned about problems that other types of character accentuations do not care about, he rarely finds himself in dangerous situations.
If only because he calculates in advance all the risks, «pitfalls», he does not get involved in adventures and does not invest his money in a dubious business.
This allows for stability and stability. Despite the fact that everything is shaky emotionally for such a person.
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And in order to better distinguish all types of character accentuations, we recommend that you familiarize yourself with each existing one. You can start, for example, with an introvert.
Take care of yourself and be happy!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina