Many of us were once hidden in the shell of a “good girl”. Because of this, we stop feeling our body, we lose not only female energy, but sometimes ourselves. How to get free? You can create your own life-saving elixir, says singer Peruquois.
The women of the world have a lot in common, despite the fact that we live in countries with different traditions and conditions. Even in the most liberal states, patriarchy still dictates its own rules. To be comfortable — first for parents, then for society, partner, children, colleagues, neighbors, boss. We seem to wear a collar that does not allow us to breathe, speak, move.
“Remember, when we were little, we dreamed,” Peruquois addresses the women. We had inspiration, a thirst for life. We waited for the same man to appear one day. That something special will come to us. Many have forgotten these feelings. We have blunted them with ambition, with ideas that others have placed in our minds. We were taught to be “good”, quiet and modest, and not lively, noisy, active, as children should be, this is a condition for acceptance into the adult world.
We, having become comfortable and correct big girls, have lost our childish sense of wonder. I did not forget about him and began to look for the feeling of this magic connection with life. I think I found it and now I’m sharing it with others.» Peruquois conducts trainings (since 2020 also online) where he talks about his «forbidden elixir» that returns women to their natural strength. There are many parts to it, it’s impossible to list them all at once, but here are the five main ones.
Item 1
Vote
We are taught at first not to ask questions, to agree, to obey. And then just keep quiet about your needs as an adult. The living girl is packed in a tight case from which she cannot be heard.
“Many have become like robots with voices without intonation and force, we have, as they say in Russia, a lump in the throat. The voice is the main key to the healing of the Woman, explains Peruquois. — I give exercises that help the participants open their vocal cords, remove this noose.
We learn to breathe, speak, sing, scream, moan not from the larynx, but from the whole body, from the stomach. And then we open our mouths in every sense, openly expressing ourselves.”
Item 2
Stomach
For many women, the body seems to be divided: there is an upper half that thinks and which we easily present to the world, but it seems that there is no lower half: we hide it in trousers, afraid to put on a dress and skirts, we fasten it with tight belts.
“At the start of the retreats, I see that the participants do not have enough sensuality in the lower abdomen, in the womb area,” says Peruquois. “They say that when they penetrate the vagina, they experience physical pain or emotional pain, because of shame and guilt. Often their jaws are tense to hold a poker face, an impenetrable expression.
We are restoring contact with the life-giving center with them, it is not for nothing that in Russian “belly” also means “life”. And the expression “true-womb” for me is that for a woman’s life it is important to have a connection with the uterus.”
Item 3
Sexuality
It is impossible if you do not get rid of the shame of your sensuality. It was imposed on us in our youth, when female power was just waking up. “Women often do not express how they really feel, how they would like to be touched, where and when.
Sexual energy erupts when a woman is open, when she feels that love is flowing from a man to her. And to be a “good girl” in bed, you just need to endure or pretend. Many women do not feel free enough in intimate relationships to say openly: «I need this now, please do it.»
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Intuition
“Women are afraid to express the holistic vision that they have inside, because they are required not to be in chaos, not to get emotional,” says Peruquois. — And in order to be understandable and accepted, convenient, compact, predictable, many ignore the inner voice, intuition.
They devalue what they see and feel because honesty can lead to conflict. But the one who accepts in himself this wild primordial nature, his emotions, his inner call, he gains strength.
Item 5
Integrity
For 27 years, more than a million participants have gone through Peruquois trainings. “These are already opened, blooming women. Such a woman is rooted in her body, she feels it, she has a connection with the stomach, the uterus: we all came to this planet from there.
She accepts her curves, her hips, her breasts, her period. Their weakness, vulnerability, internal chaos, sensuality, imperfection. She listens to her intuition, sees her natural beauty. And that is its integrity,” concludes the “recipe” of his elixir Peruquois.