If we don’t control our emotions, our emotions control us. What does this lead to? To anything. More often — to troubles and problems, especially when it comes to business.
Some emotional responses, genetically passed on to us from our wild ancestors, have helped and continue to help us adapt to the wild, but in difficult social situations, emotions are more often the source of problems.
Where wild emotion demands to fight, it is more reasonable for reasonable people today to negotiate.
Other emotions are the result of individual learning, or rather, the result of children’s creativity in the interaction of the child with his parents.
I cried to my mother — my mother came running. I was tired of my dad — he took me in his arms.↑
When children learn to control their parents with the help of their emotions, this is natural, but when these childhood habits are already transmitted by adults into adulthood, this is already problematic.
I was upset with them — but they do not respond. I was offended by them — but they do not care about me! I’ll have to start getting angry — in childhood it usually helped … ↑
You need to educate your emotions, and for this you need to learn how to manage them.