The scientific community is divided on the question of the existence of the G spot. But to begin with, what are we talking about? The G spot would be an area, difficult to find, but which would be the key to female orgasm.

This famous G-spot was first described in 1950 by the German doctor Ernst Gräfenberg, who left him his initial: it would be located inside the vagina, 3 centimeters from its entrance, belly side. Once stimulated, it would allow the woman to reach the 7^e sky.

If this point exists, why very few women say they have never identified it? Did they only deal with bad lovers? 9 out of 10 women would never have felt anything at this level.

G-spot must be stimulated to be discovered

Not feeling anything is not proof that this G-spot does not exist. According to Dr Gérard Leleu, sexologist and author of Treatise on orgasms (Leducs.s editions), “ most often it is virtual, that is to say not awake and therefore little or not sensitive ». It would therefore suffice to stimulate it to know if it produces an effect or not.. You can do it yourself or with your partner, which can lead to little sexual games. To the touch, this area is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall; if you feel this roughness with your finger, you’ve found it.

Certain positions are more conducive to G-spot stimulation. Some recommend the doggy style, others the spoon … What is certain is that preliminaries are essential in the search for this famous area. In fact, the more the woman is aroused, the more she will have the chances of discovering the pleasures that the G spot can give her.

What if we never find out?

If after going in search of that erogenous zone many times and you still don’t feel anything, don’t be discouraged. Finding the G-spot can never be an end in itself. During sex, pleasure can be met in many other ways. And what counts above all, it is the understanding and the complicity of the couple. If you’re sexually fulfilled, don’t beat yourself up looking for a place that might never give you an orgasm.

It should also be understood that the existence of this area has not yet been scientifically proven. We must therefore be reassured. If this G-spot is a reality for some women, let them take advantage of it, for others, there is nothing to worry about. 

But then why do we talk so often about the G-spot? ” It’s the fantasy of the existence of a button that triggers everything », Explains Catherine Blanc, psychoanalyst and sexologist, in the review Psychologies. ” A point that would make any woman enjoy, even beyond her desire to enjoy. This reassures men in their ability to make them feel pleasure. But not every day women are able to want it. It is a received idea. »

Claire Verdier

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