On the second date, as a rule, you are less worried, your partner seems almost familiar, you go to a meeting, expecting revelations and discoveries from her. And you have no idea that it is on the second date that the fate of the relationship is decided.
It is believed that the first date is the most important. They carefully prepare for it, choose words, try to impress. The second meeting does not cause such anxiety. You are more relaxed. You think that you are interested in each other, you know something about your partner, you see points of contact and common interests. In a word, before the second date you feel more confident and calm.
But do not forget that the second date is more important than the first and prepares real discoveries for you. Therefore, it is important not to make typical mistakes that so often overshadow a second date, and to know how to correct them.
1. High expectations
Often, having agreed to a second date, you immediately begin to fantasize: about a kiss, a hug, and sometimes even about a wedding and children. But imagine that the other is not yet ready for this. You will expect steps from him that he has not yet planned to take. Both he and you end up feeling cheated.
Help: don’t guess. Let everything go the way it goes. So far, you see not so much the person you met, but your fantasy about him. Get to know each other better first. Then you will understand what is worth hoping for and what is not.
2. Talk only about yourself
If you already told everything about yourself on the first date, if you sent messages and emails between the first and second dates, on the second date it may seem to you that there is nothing more to talk about.
Help: ask. Stop constantly talking about your affairs and experiences. True interest in the interlocutor works wonders! Get to know the person opposite, ask open, personal (but not too intimate) questions.
3. Inattention to one’s own feelings
Everything seems to be fine. You sat together in a cafe, then walked and even kissed. It seems to you that the new partner is in love with you. Perhaps that is the way it is. At this point, you should ask yourself: do you really like him? Or do you just want to finally meet someone?
Help: listen to yourself. If you really had a good time, agree to the next meeting. If not, don’t continue. Relationships for show will still end in nothing and, even worse, they can hurt a partner.
If you take into account these recommendations, then the second date will definitely pass “without errors.”