Sex becomes boring if we do it the same way from time to time. But our body is fraught with many secrets — you just have to show curiosity. How to discover sources of hidden pleasure?
Our body is sensitive to touch, and here everyone has their own preferences — what excites one may act like a stopcock on another. When we talk about erogenous zones, the most obvious ones come to mind: breasts, clitoris, G-spot, penis.
But there are many other places that are not so rich in nerve endings, but can be awakened by skillful stimulation, such as the eyelids, elbows, stomach, head. If we take the time to explore our body and the body of a partner, we can discover sources of pleasure that we were not even aware of.
Brain
Although we do not usually think of it as such, in fact the brain is one of the largest erogenous zones. It connects physical sensations with auditory and visual sensations, and pleasure is born as a result.
We are excited by touching the skin, light strokes and kisses. But excitement arises not only when we ourselves feel it, but also when we look from the side. Psychophysiologists at the University of Notenburg (Sweden) found that the brain makes no difference between experiencing lovemaking and watching others make love.
The neck, collarbone area and back of the head are also very sensitive — in both men and women.
This feature of the brain can be used during foreplay: watching porn and erotica can fuel desire. Try to observe touches on different parts of the body and repeat them together with a partner. You will feel how the receptors on your skin wake up and begin to react more sharply.
Eyes
Long eye contact can fuel desire and create sexual tension between partners. When we are aroused, the pupils dilate and this makes us more attractive to the opposite sex. The longer the eye contact, the stronger we feel the intimate connection.
lips
A kiss acts like a drug: it’s like a whole cocktail of hormones and neurotransmitters has been injected into our body and brain. Lips are the most accessible erogenous zone. A huge number of nerve endings make them 100 times more sensitive than fingers.
Many are excited by the touch of the lips on the eyelids, eyebrows, temples, shoulders, palms and hair. The neck, collarbone area and back of the head are also very sensitive — both in men and women. They can be stimulated with the lips, tongue, or fingers.
deep orgasms
Everyone has heard about clitoral and vaginal orgasm — in fact, these are all one orgasm, just different zones of stimulation to achieve it. Those who practice tantric sex distinguish another type of orgasm — cervical, or uterine.
According to their descriptions, it arises from the stimulation of the cervix and covers the entire body, spreading over it in waves of pleasure. Unlike usual, it can last up to several hours. It can be achieved both during penetrative sex and with the use of sex toys.
Body mapping
This technique helps to find hidden or dormant erogenous zones. Partners gently touch all parts of each other’s body and look at the reaction. This helps to determine in which areas the touch causes more arousal. It takes some time to achieve the effect: different zones may awaken unevenly.
Remember: your body is capable of more sensuality than you think.
Sex therapy also uses the sensation focus technique, in which partners study each other to find areas of maximum erotic sensitivity. One of the partners sits with his back against the chest of the other. The task of the person sitting in front is to relax and focus on breathing. The one behind, with soft touches of the fingers, explores his body. Then they change places. You can also do this in front of a mirror.
Legs
Feet, ankles, knees can be a wonderful object for love foreplay. The nerve endings that are located in these places pass directly through the main erogenous zones — the vagina, penis, vagina and prostate. Therefore, their stimulation can serve as a good “warm-up”.
Remember: your body is capable of more sensuality than you think. Nerve endings in various places can become a source of sexual pleasure. Whether you will be able to literally find the most malleable points depends on your desire to liberate yourself and experiment.
About the Expert: Samantha Evans is a sexual health expert and the founder of JoDivine, a company that specializes in the production of erotic products.