17-year-old Diana Shurygina became the target of harassment after she accused her friend of rape. Social media users are divided into two camps. Some began to zealously support the girl, others — the guy. Columnist Arina Kholina discusses why this story caused such a resonance and why society likes manifestations of cruelty.
The victim is always to blame. A woman should be modest. A drunk woman is a target for trouble. Raped — provoked. «Whore» is not a pity.
All these familiar dogmas were voiced by those who believe that 17-year-old Diana Shurygina is a self-serving “skin” who brought 21-year-old Sergei Semenov under the article. Diana went with Sergei (and friends) out of town, to a cottage where he raped her. Rape has been proven in court.
But the Internet is against it — Diana is not dressed like that, does not behave like that, does not react like that. “What was she thinking? the internet asks. “I went somewhere with a man, I drank vodka.” The Internet is seriously discussing how much vodka the girl drank. That’s the decisive question, right? I drank a little — well, decent. A lot — a slut, so she needs it.
The story, honestly, like from the films of Lars von Trier. He loves about the distraught crowd, which chooses a victim and destroys it. Society needs sacrifice. Society needs «witches».
A year ago, Brock Stoker, a Stanford student, raped a girl who got drunk and fell somewhere on the lawn. “My son cannot go to jail for actions that only lasted 20 minutes,” said the young man’s father.
Sergei Semenov’s parents believe that Diana broke his life. “My boy has already been punished,” said Brock’s father. “His future will never be the one he dreamed of. He’s expelled from Stanford, he’s depressed, he doesn’t smile, he has no appetite.»
Stoker was given a meager time. Six months. The scandal was terrible because of this, but he got off with six months of punishment.
The harsh truth is that society likes manifestations of cruelty. Yes, not all of them, of course. But most love violence. Not over yourself. And not by ourselves. And such a distant, spectacular
Society, let’s be honest, is very tolerant of sexual abusers. “Well, what? they argue. — Is it so hard for her? The guy suffered, and if she relaxed at all, then she would have received pleasure. She still looks like a whore.»
Society is generally friendly to those who are cruel to women. Kim Kardashian was robbed, tied up, threatened with a gun, scared half to death. And the Internet says: there was nothing to brag about your jewelry on Instagram (an extremist organization banned in Russia). Asked for it. Or is it all PR. What if Kanye West got robbed? Or who is our favorite? Tom Hiddleston. There is confidence that they would sympathize with him just because he is not a woman.
The harsh truth is that society likes manifestations of cruelty. Yes, not all of them, of course. But most love violence. Not over yourself. And not by ourselves. And such, distant, spectacular.
Violence against women is seen by many as something sexual. No, they don’t think so at all. They think “she is to blame” and other saving heresy. But in fact, they enjoy the thought that «the whore got her.» Rocco Sifreddi shoots like ordinary porn, not for BDSM lovers, everyone watches it. But this is very violent porn, and actresses get real injuries there.
But this freak is watched by millions. Precisely because men want to be cruel. This is their patriarchal sexual fetish. Women who tolerate such men are even more cruel to their own kind, to those who dare to rebel against the system.
The female victim is always on the side of the tormentor. «He is not understood.» The one that rebelled, she’s a traitor, she questions this whole ideology. So what? We hate her
It’s sad that there are so many desperate, unhappy, angry men all over the world for whom sex and violence are one and the same. And there are many women who do not know another system, who are used to the fact that the relationship between partners is a hierarchy, tyranny and humiliation.
For such men, a woman in sex is always a victim, because they do not believe that a woman really wants them. And the female victim is always on the side of the tormentor. «He is not understood.» The one that rebelled, she’s a traitor, she questions this whole ideology. So what? We hate her.
It’s shocking when you realize how many women live with latent (and not so) sadists. How many women perceive «punishment» as inevitable. To one degree or another, almost everyone has it.
It’s a pity for Diana Shurygin, but she is a heroine, almost Joan of Arc, who made everyone show their true selves. No statistic would ever do that. So far, the verdict is sad — society is seriously ill with an acute form of housing construction. Approximately 1:3 in favor of violence. But this unit is also important. She says that there is movement. And that there are people who know for sure that the victim is always right. She is never to blame for anything. And there can be no other opinion.