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Usually the representatives of the stronger sex try not to show their sadness. But if you see or feel that your loved one is sad, you can help him cope with this condition. Don’t know how to cheer up a guy? We have several simple and effective ways.
Ready-made examples for live communication
Undoubtedly, it is easier to help if you are nearby. But you need to know a few psychological secrets so as not to spoil everything. We tell you how to cheer up a guy live. These techniques can be used both in critical situations and for prevention.
Praise
It is especially important to hear a compliment at moments when we stop believing in ourselves, and hidden complexes begin to come out. But do not confuse sincere praise and flattery. Tell the guy from the bottom of your heart how smart, courageous, strong he is, what he means to you. Let’s give examples.
“You are one of the smartest people in my environment. That is why I always consult with you. I don’t know what I would do without you.”
“I admire the fact that you always achieve your goal. You are my motivator. I’m learning from you.”
“You are courageous and caring. I used to think that they don’t exist. Do you yourself notice how next to you all the girls straighten their backs and straighten their hair?
“You have such a great sense of humor! You can always cheer me up – it’s priceless. Thank you for being you and for being there.”
Comment psychologist:
Good examples and correct method. As they say, a kind word is also pleasant for a cat. And a man, like that same cat, loves to be stroked on his fur, patted behind the ear and praised. Such words raise self-esteem and inspire self-confidence. And it is especially pleasant to hear them from a beloved woman or girlfriend.
Talk and support morally
Simple truth: if you speak out, it will become easier. It is difficult with guys in this regard, as they prefer to keep everything to themselves. But try very tactfully to bring him to the conversation. Do not ask questions directly. Don’t give advice unless asked for. Show that you understand and support. Let’s give an example of how to build a dialogue.
You are in a bad mood today. Obviously something bad happened.
– Everything is fine.
“You don’t want to show it, but you worry in your heart.
– There’s an important meeting tomorrow. It does not bode well, the boss was angry today.
“Surely, this state of his was passed on to you. But perhaps there is no good reason for worrying, and everything will go well.
“Maybe so, maybe not.
– Are there any ways?
“We need to prepare well: think over the answers to possible questions, make interesting proposals to improve the efficiency of our project.
– That’s a great idea! That’s what always fascinates me about you: you instantly solve all problems, you always know what to do. Is there anything I can help you with?
Coffee and pizza would do me good, the evening will be long.
– Deal!
Comment psychologist:
Pronunciation is a good psychotherapeutic technique. But it works better when a person wants to talk himself out. Men’s and women’s reactions to problems are different. A woman in a difficult situation is recommended to speak out or cry on the shoulder of a man. And sometimes it’s better not to touch a man, as he is used to solving his problems himself. But it will not be superfluous to offer help, even if they do not use it.
Infect with positivity
Why should only boys entertain girls? Sometimes you need to switch places. Dance, sing funny songs, fool around. Especially since society allows women to look a little silly and considers it even cute. Infect the guy with your optimism and good mood. A funny story would be good too.
“Didn’t I tell you how I had a job interview recently? I was tested on a lie detector. They asked how much it would be eight minus five, and I answered two. But the funniest thing: I said it with such confidence that the lie detector did not even suspect a dirty trick.
Comment psychologist:
Men love merry girls more than nesmiyan princesses. It is more pleasant to communicate with such a “lighter”. Because the positive really charges, and someone else’s negativity can drive you into depression.
Get away from him
We tell you when to use this method. Firstly, if the guy is just tired and wants silence. Secondly, when the previous methods do not help. Thirdly, if you know well that you cannot break through this silent wall. Then the algorithm of actions is simple: lull the psychologist rushing out in yourself, leave the person behind for at least an hour and … prepare a delicious dinner. Perhaps he will become a cure for the blues.
Comment psychologist:
Exactly! I would add that sometimes a man needs more than an hour of silence. If possible, it is wise to go somewhere at least for a day. Sometimes a man needs to be alone to collect his thoughts. We love that no one interferes with this. Persistent attempts to help can cause irritation. This must be understood, and in no case be offended by a man.
Ready-made examples for communication by correspondence
If you are not near the person who is sad, it does not matter. You can also help remotely. It is good that modern technical means allow you to communicate at any distance. We tell together with a psychologist how to cheer up a pen pal.
Send a witty phrase
There are a huge number of funny videos and funny pictures on the Internet. You only need to choose what suits a particular guy in a particular situation. The fun content will do the rest for you. If the guy is at work, it’s better not to send a joke that makes you crawl under the table. A witty phrase is perfect.
“The boss is just the same person as the rest, only he doesn’t know about it”
“It’s so beautiful when rotten people stop talking to you. It’s like the trash took itself out.”
“Most of all, people resent you for being stubbornly and impudently unwilling to live up to their personal expectations.”
Comment psychologist:
An aphorism or a parable can not only broaden one’s horizons, but also improve one’s mood. Successfully said at the right time, the phrase changes the way of thinking and gives relief. It’s like an insight, an insight. By the way, the last example almost exactly conveys the meaning of the phrase of the famous psychotherapist, the founder of Gestalt psychology, Frederick Perls. He said: We were not born to justify anyone’s expectations.
Write a touching letter
The epistolary genre is so romantic! Support the guy with a touching letter. Talk about your feelings. The beauty is that, unlike oral speech, you have the opportunity to pick up beautiful and correct words. We will present a small example, but you do not need to limit yourself.
“I have been thinking about you since morning. About how lucky I am in life that I have you. And I want to give you the same feeling. Know that no matter what happens, you are the best for me. And even if everything is against you, I am always on your side.
Comment psychologist:
Such recognition pleases, soothes, causes a pleasant feeling in the soul.
Turn up the music
Of course, if you’re not around, you can’t physically play music on his phone or computer. But you can send a good composition to the guy on the wall in VK or in private messages. For example, the song of your favorite band, if you know about his tastes. But it is better if the music is cheerful, not melancholic. Some new compositions that he has not yet heard will also come up. You can add a message. For example:
“I heard this song and thought of you.”
“This music always helps me fight the blues.”
“Have you heard this cool song yet? Turn it up right now, and louder.”
Comment psychologist:
Sometimes music is more effective than words. She conveys her mood. Musical vibrations affect both the consciousness and the subconscious.
Send a playful message or photo
One of the feminine virtues that affects men is sexuality. Send him your sensual photo. But this is not a forbidden trick, only if you are in a relationship with a guy. And if at the moment he is not at an important meeting. Otherwise, his mood will not only improve, but his working mood will also disappear. Not sure about his environment – just flirt.
– I dreamed of you today.
– ???
“I won’t tell, otherwise it won’t come true.” Better show in the evening.
Comment psychologist:
This is a very effective approach. It doesn’t have to be a nude photo. It is enough to take a picture from a new angle: for example, with a fatal make-up, or in a short skirt and stilettos. Men love novelty, and a seductive photo will cause a surge of hormones. Thoughts immediately switch. But be prepared that the guy will probably want to come to you.