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The mood of the girl is changeable, like the wind. Sometimes she herself does not know why she suddenly became sad. But it’s also easy to get her smile back. These methods will surely help.
Ready-made examples for live communication
If you’re with a girl who’s in a bad mood, try one of these tactics.
Help to speak out
Don’t give unsolicited advice, but show empathy. Help the girl speak out, and she will feel better. Important: if you immediately ask how things are, or what happened, this may be perceived as a duty phrase. Surely, you will hear in response “everything is fine.” Show that you noticed the condition of the girl.
Example:
– You’re sad today.
— There is such a thing.
“Something very unpleasant happened that spoiled your mood.
– I had a fight with my sister.
– Understand. I also always feel terrible because of conflicts in the family. You are mad at her.
– And for yourself. Both are to blame. They quarreled over nonsense.
Do you think we need to reconcile sooner?
“Yeah, but I’m still pissed and I might say bad things to her again.
I think she feels the same way. But you love each other.
I’ll call her tonight.
– Great idea.
Comment psychologist:
Indeed, pronunciation is effective, and is one of the many methods of psychotherapy. Sometimes a person becomes much easier just because someone listened to him. The internal tension is removed. And when a person relaxes, he often makes the right decisions. Even the famous American psychotherapist Milton Erickson said: a person himself knows the solution to his problem, even if he does not know about it.
“Give me a man”
Show the girl that she is not alone, that you are ready to solve her problem. In most cases, this is nonsense (according to men) like a broken nail or a broken-up beloved star couple, and rather psychological help is required.
Phrases to help you:
“You have me, and now we’ll figure out what to do with it.”
“I’ll help you no matter what happens”
Comment psychologist:
There are male and female types of response to a difficult situation. As a rule, if a man has a problem, it is better not to touch him. He prefers to think and make decisions alone. Another thing is a woman. In a difficult situation, she needs a man’s shoulder, or even a “vest” to cry.
Distract with a funny story
There are many ways to get away from the problem. For example, tell a funny or motivating story.
Example:
“Here you are, you say, you are afraid to speak tomorrow. Do you remember how I was speechless at the state? I really stood in front of the commission for about five minutes like an idol and could not say a word. And Semenova is still like this: “Young man, you probably had such a delicious breakfast that you ate it along with your tongue.” Do you know what I did? He imagined that she was dancing lambada with the dean. Barely held back a laugh. And the situation seemed to me not so terrible. Performed normally. They also advise presenting the audience naked. But I’m afraid I would have laughed then.”
If a girl is worried about a bad haircut, remember a funny incident about a hairdresser from your life. In general, you get the point. If you don’t have stories on a “given” topic, any hilarious one that the girl hasn’t heard yet will do.
Comment psychologist:
Switching attention is an effective way to distract from the problem. But it is very difficult for a person to switch, because he is fixated on his experience. The person next to you can help.
Give a sincere compliment
There is another effective way to cheer up a girl live. Give a sincere compliment while making eye contact. But the on-duty “you are beautiful” is too simple. Compliments must be personal. Examples:
“You have an amazing sense of style. I’m surprised every time how cool you look. Have you considered becoming a stylist?
You have very beautiful eyes. Such a rare blue color, with long eyelashes. When we first met, I didn’t even notice what you were wearing, what hairstyle you had. I couldn’t take my eyes off yours.
I recently remembered how you got a kitten from a tree. Do you remember? He was so small, defenseless, afraid. I know few people as kind and brave as you.
Comment psychologist:
Many are aware of the well-known phrase that a woman loves with her ears. Of course, a compliment should not sound on duty and insincere. It is important to really admire a woman, and then the right words will come to mind. Compliments about appearance are perceived positively, although they can lead to some embarrassment. But it’s not scary. Almost every woman has dissatisfaction with some part of her body that she wants to change at all costs. Now the nose is long, then the wrinkle interferes. For a man, it doesn’t matter. The beauty and attractiveness of a woman is perceived by him as a whole, without going into details.
Praise for good human qualities is always perceived positively. Everyone has enough complexes. You can tell yourself “I’m smart” as much as you like, but when you hear it from someone else, the effect is completely different!
Ready-made examples for communication by correspondence
You can cheer up, even if you are not around. Girls love to chat. It’s romantic. Some even fall in love without ever seeing a person. We tell you some simple simple ways how to cheer up a pen girlfriend.
Inundate with pleasant messages
You can send pleasant messages to the girl all day long, starting with “Good morning, the most beautiful!” It’s even better if you ask your friends to connect to it. Let everyone send her a couple of nice lines. Examples:
“The sun shines today just to make you smile.”
“You are one of the smartest girls I know.”
“Knowing you, I have no doubt: you can do everything!”
“I saw a beautiful picture, and remembered you.”
Comment psychologist:
Kind messages in messengers can charge a girl with mood for the whole day. She feels that she is remembered and mentally supported. It is clear that correspondence will never replace live communication, and for closer relationships or discussion of serious things, conversations are needed at least by phone or video. But short positive messages are definitely useful.
Write a poem or song
Any girl will be pleased with poems dedicated specifically to her. It’s great if you have a talent for writing and can rhyme a few lines yourself. However, it is worth a try, even if you think that it will turn out clumsily.
Comment psychologist:
This is a really cool method and it works great. I personally witnessed this more than once. A verse dedicated to a woman increases her self-esteem and sets her in a romantic mood. After all, poetry to the ladies of the heart was traditionally written by true gentlemen. And even if there is no talent to rhyme, you can write in blank verse. The main thing is a sign of attention!
Submit a funny picture
Agree: it’s very easy. And at the same time it works. Ideal if you are not a wordsmith. Without further ado, send a girl a funny picture. If you get a smiley face in response, you win! Aerobatics – to make a funny collage or a sticker for a messenger from a photo of a girl.
Comment psychologist:
The picture is perceived positively if it is not hackneyed, funny and understandable to the addressee. Now there are many online photo editors where a photo of a girl can be placed on the cover of a glossy magazine or in some kind of solemn setting like a royal ball, a luxury yacht. It would seem a trifle and fiction, but the subconscious mind reacts sensitively to such pictures, and the positive is received.
Like
Sometimes a problem arises: how to cheer up a girl if right now there is absolutely no time? The fastest and easiest way is to like her photos on social networks. Check out recent photos. Scroll down the feed and like some old pictures. A few good emoticons and a comment in the style of “The sea suits you”, “Beauty!” – It is done.
Comment psychologist:
Likes in the life of modern people play a big role. Sometimes they even lead to serious scandals if a loved one likes someone wrong. A dislike or a negative comment can spoil the mood for a long time and even develop a complex. A positive like and comment-compliment will cheer you up.
In fact, you do not need to wait for the girl to be sad. With the help of all these pleasant Christmas trees, you can make a good mood even better!