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Where is the family territory common, where is it personal?
Family territories are formed historically, but can change by agreement and are fixed by agreements.
Preservation of territory and the possibility of losing territory
As long as you solve your questions and problems yourself and as long as you don’t strain those around you, the territory remains yours.
You begin to affect others with your affairs and problems, let alone burden others — the territory becomes disputable, that is, common.
If a wife, without compiling a to-do list, then takes offense at her husband: “I don’t have time, help me!” — making a list becomes not a personal issue, but a general one. If the husband’s coat is then washed by his wife, the question ceases to be purely masculine.
She decides to wash her shorts — whether it is possible to put on this shorts or when to take it off — she decides. But if the husband is ready to buy u.e.shki (consumables) with his personal money, this is his right.
How to go home to someone is not an entirely individual question, unless of course you want your partner’s eyes to always look at you with admiration.
How to make the question stop being general and become yours personally?
Once you agreed that these questions are common. Good. How to make the question stop being general and become yours personally? Take everything completely on yourself, spend money and time so that it doesn’t concern anyone else and doesn’t bother anyone. If the other side does nothing, but claims that the territory is still common and all issues need to be coordinated with it, ask the other side to prove that your actions really cause them trouble and damage, and not just glitches and whims.