Give me five minutes — the format of the request to discuss issues not general, but concerning the partner personally. In couples and families, there is a common situation when one is worried about something in the life of a partner, and the other does not want to listen. Instruct, put pressure on — conflictogenic, violation of the family constitution, the partner has the right to object to this. “Give me five minutes” is the way out for many couples.
I have a request to you: give me five minutes, I want to talk about a topic that is important to me. I understand that the question is yours, you decide it, but I ask you to give me five minutes to express your thoughts. I promise I won’t pressure you. I promise that it will not be so much anxiety as information and solutions. It will be constructive. Would you like me to talk about this?»