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Times are changing, attitudes towards others and ourselves are changing. But this stereotype about sexuality somehow lives on. It is refuted by our experts — sexologists Alain Eril and Mireille Bonyerbal.
It has long been ingrained in society that men are more likely to feel the need for sex, have more sexual partners and are less selective in relationships. However, men themselves are increasingly saying that they experience a lack of emotional connection with a partner and mutual tenderness in a relationship. Which of these opinions is closer to the truth?
“Women are more willing to have sex as they reach puberty”
Alain Eriel, psychoanalyst, sexologist
From the point of view of physiology, daily ejaculation is necessary for a man for the proper functioning of the testicles and prostate. Some patients are advised by urologists to masturbate once a day. It’s practically a medical procedure! In women, the mechanisms that cause desire are more related to such things as the climate, the setting, her own fantasies.
A woman’s desire is determined less by anatomy and more by reason. Her sexual needs are part of her personal development; in this sense, a woman is more likely arranged according to the principle of “being”. A man, on the other hand, is more tuned in to competition, to competition, the desire to “have” prevails in him.
“For a man, sex is a way to say “I love you”
Mireille Bonierbal, psychiatrist, sexologist
This statement is true, but much here depends on age. Until the age of 35, men are subject to the influence of sex hormones that overwhelm them. They act like hunters. Then the level of testosterone decreases.
Young women are less subject to biological dictates; with the onset of maturity, when internal prohibitions and taboos disappear, they are more willing to have sex.
Nevertheless, if a woman has found her love, then at any period of her life it is easier for her to do without sex than for a man. For a man who is often stingy with words, sex becomes a way to say «I love you.»