Contents
- 1. If You Don’t Make Mistakes, You Don’t Take Risks
- 2. To save a relationship, you need to be patient.
- 3. Relationships need work
- 4. You need to constantly ask each other questions
- 5. You need to finish what you started
- 6. We say “no” too often.
- 7. Do not dissolve into each other
- 8. Dreams Don’t Need Censorship
- 9. Relationships must be fought for
Sometimes relationships fall apart because of nonsense, and years later we regret to say: “If only I understood then.” Coach John Kim talks about nine things to keep in mind for a relationship to be harmonious.
Harmonious relationships are hard work. And a long happy marriage is not a gift of fate, but the result of daily efforts on both sides.
1. If You Don’t Make Mistakes, You Don’t Take Risks
Sometimes we do something with good intentions, but it turns out that our actions were a mistake. However, without them there is no growth. Couples who take risks get bumped together and then learn from their mistakes. And so they become a real strong team.
2. To save a relationship, you need to be patient.
Lovers believe that relationships are a natural process. We are sure that the partner shares our values and thoughts and that we are above everyday problems. But as time passes, the level of dopamine decreases, and what recently seemed insignificant upsets and unnerves. Socks scattered on the floor, snoring or a love of football can not only provoke a quarrel, but also lead to divorce.
A happy relationship is possible if the partners are patient and willing to negotiate and compromise.
3. Relationships need work
Everything valuable in life comes from hard work. Relationships are one of the most important values in life. Long-term alliances that seem ideal from the outside are the result of the work of both partners.
4. You need to constantly ask each other questions
Sometimes it seems to us that we know everything about a partner, we just read it like an open book. But people change. Yesterday she loved chocolate, but today she cannot see it. We used to like frivolous comedies, but lately we have been closer to auteur cinema. Questions are the basis of communication. By asking, we not only learn new things about a partner, but also get interesting opportunities for our own development.
5. You need to finish what you started
This applies primarily to disputes. Sometimes couples end a heated argument without resolving the issue. They do not want to aggravate the relationship, but after that, anger, irritation and dissatisfaction remain inside. These feelings are the enemy of relationships.
6. We say “no” too often.
We are afraid of the new and the unknown. We don’t want to feel uncomfortable, and we turn down opportunities, making relationships boring and monotonous. Try to say “yes” more often, and life will sparkle with many new shades.
7. Do not dissolve into each other
Falling in love, we forget about the old life, stop communicating with friends and develop. Each person needs his own life, not connected with his beloved. Otherwise, we will become uninteresting not only to the partner, but also to ourselves.
8. Dreams Don’t Need Censorship
Life changes, dreams become different. You should not change your plans, goals and desires just because the partner dreams of something else or considers our aspirations ridiculous and ridiculous.
Some lose themselves in relationships. We get used to being content with little. Life will not become interesting, vibrant and amazing if we do not decide that this is the life we want.
9. Relationships must be fought for
Sometimes it is enough to admit your mistake, and not try to prove the rightness or superiority at any cost.
These statements may seem obvious. However, in the heat of a quarrel, we often neglect them and put the relationship at risk.
About the author: John Kim is a coach and motivational speaker.