Some new tips for those who are tired of radiating rage and depression in anticipation of those unfortunate “red days of the calendar”.
Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) is a dubious pleasure familiar to every woman. Irritability, tearfulness, decreased interest in life, weakness, fatigue, headache, dizziness, nausea, pressure drops, sweating, increased urination, cramps, tingling in the extremities, breast tenderness, edema, weight gain, chills, fever, hypersensitivity to smells and sounds, allergic reactions, sleep disturbances – this is not a complete list of symptoms that can be felt during this difficult period.
PMS cannot be avoided, but can be mitigated
Unfortunately, there is almost nothing we can do about this misfortune: the problem is mostly medical and manifests itself in almost all girls. The emergence of a monstrous list of symptoms can be associated with hormonal background, and with metabolism, and with a number of other factors. But since a woman’s mood deteriorates during PMS and she becomes harmful and capricious, this is partly a psychological problem.
So, have you felt a surge of bad health and mood and feel that all the negativity is about to break through to unsuspecting colleagues and household members?
Psychologist Ekaterina Krichenko helped Woman’s Day to figure out what each of us can do.
According to her, all this is nothing more than a reflection of the character of the woman herself. PMS only weakens barriers, releasing the multiplied emotion that was already there before. Calm and quiet will experience everything in itself – to suffer, be silent and tormented. But if the person is demonstrative by nature, then she will not greet everyone around her, she will clearly demonstrate to everyone how bad she is.
– This is because with the onset of this period the taboo is lifted – in ordinary life, after all, you cannot behave like that, but this is a legal reason to express your “fu”. It is useless to contain anger – it comes from the fact that all systems are overstrained. The husband is angry, the children are angry, the people around do everything wrong … Emotions must be thrown out! In principle, you can beat the pillow, but there are other ways, – says the expert.
What to do? The first step is to ask yourself who this irritability is directed at. No matter how you feel yourself, everything cannot be enraged at the same time, usually some specific people or events annoy you. To avoid destructive consequences in the form of grievances and conflicts, it is important to inform the people with whom you communicate and live about your condition. No, it’s not about rushing a high-speed train along the corridors of work and at home with a siren and shouting “Caution, I have PMS!” But it is very important to warn colleagues or household members that you are in a very bad mood today. So to say, hint in time so that no one gets hurt. As a rule, people value this honesty and choose expressions more carefully, being careful not to touch the person who has informed about their feelings in advance.
A simple written meditation called A Letter of Anger is ideal for relieving the growing feelings of irritation and aggression. To do this, you need to prepare three sheets of paper and a pen. Such a message must be written by hand, this is the whole point. And in the process, it is important to turn off all kinds of censorship – moral, ethical, and whatever else. All emotions, all angry wishes to anyone – from higher powers to a neighbor in a minibus – urgently splash out on paper!
But you need to write not as much as you want, but exactly three pages
First, the element of obligation will play its part. Nobody wants to keep getting angry after such a forced release of emotions. Well, and secondly, it will help to speak out to the fullest. And now, in no case reading what has been written, tear all three sheets with pleasure into small pieces and throw them away – the mental slops will no longer be useful to you. You can use the “Letter of Anger” every day as needed, and especially for nervous ones – twice a day. However, a rare fury reaches its second attempt in a day.
But the spectrum of experienced emotions and states, of course, does not end with rage. There are young ladies who have PMS primarily associated with a feeling of weakness (she would be happy to get angry, as it should, but there is no strength to get irritated) and devastation. In this case, resource meditations help very well. For example, retire in a separate room, close your eyes for about fifteen minutes. At the same time, it is important to sit, and not lie, sleep is not what is needed now. So, we relaxed, our eyes closed – we go into a fantasy world. You need to imagine a place that gives strength, where it is very good, comfortable and protected. The main thing is to see yourself in this place not from the outside, but to be, as it were, inside this moment. When the ideal “nest” is twisted, you need to be saturated with the energy of an imaginary place of power, soak it up like a sponge!
There are also enough young ladies who, first of all, begin not to get depressed or to come off on their loved ones, but to seize their sadness. At the same time, it is not that we physically lacked something. No, the body is functioning normally, it is the brain that thinks differently, giving us false signals! Sweet, which we mercilessly use in search of the hormone of joy, is not an option. But to forbid oneself in such a situation is also worth nothing. Therefore, if it is precisely the destruction of sweets that has been incurred and the quantity is no longer physically controlled, it is possible to influence in time the quality of what seizes all this mental and physical pain. All you need to do is stock up on low-calorie snacks or fruits in advance. If possible, even order in advance some author’s delicacy according to all the canons of proper nutrition. Eat everything alone or treat your loved ones / colleagues for a pleasant conversation – choose yourself.
Many girls try to seize depression on days like this.
In a cat cafe or a petting zoo, animals are accustomed to a constant influx of guests and react with restraint to hugs. Even the most tired and frustrated girl with PMS migraines will benefit from hanging out with soft and fluffy four-legged friends. In addition, a rabbit or a guinea pig will not let go of a nasty joke and will not be reproached for being in a bad mood. Definitely in the game “People against animals” – 1: 0 in favor of animals.
Yes, no slobbering melodramas while eating the above-described sweets! Tearful films will only cause a corresponding reaction, plunging the viewer only deeper into the depths of depression. But a good (or even not so) horror will quickly force you to switch from aggression in relation to the world around you to the plot of the movie. In addition, tense scenes can create an adrenaline rush that will help you forget about all the far-fetched problems and how you should be distracted. So be it, for moral support, you can call your husband to bed. Well, or a cat. Depending on who you trust more.
Option for lovers of global achievements. Repair, by the way, is a great idea for switching attention and dumping negative energy. Judge for yourself: some of the dissatisfaction with the whole world will go to cabinets and bedside tables, which will have to be moved. Well, and then, so many calming cases! For example, removing wallpaper from the walls. It is a laborious and monotonous exercise, but the results are always encouraging. In addition, design ideas and thoughts about how beautiful everything will be later can raise the mood. True, before you start, you should think carefully – suddenly, old repairs still have a right to exist. Leave this option as a last resort, in reserve.