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Tips for Wives: How to Meet Your Husband from Work
We’ve revisited home economics tips for a real woman. The first thought is how good it is that times have changed, and you no longer need to follow these recommendations! But psychologists believe that there is a grain of common sense in these rules for wives.
Australian Housekeeping Manual, published in the 60s
It was taught to girls in high school:
*You must remember that you need to prepare for the arrival of your husband from the service every day.
*Prepare the children, wash them, comb their hair and change into clean, smart clothes. They should line up and greet their father when he walks through the door.
*For such a case, put on a clean apron yourself and try to decorate yourself – for example, tie a bow in your hair.
*Do not enter into conversations with your husband, remember how tired he is, and what he has to do every day in the service for you – feed him silently and only after he reads the newspaper, you can try to talk to him.
Household Journal (USA), May 13, 1955
A Guide for a Good Wife:
*Have dinner ready. Plan ahead (preferably the previous evening) what to prepare for his arrival. Delicious food for dinner will show that you are thinking of him and worried about his needs.
*Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospect of a good dinner (especially if it’s his favorite food) is a necessary part of the warmth of home comfort.
*Prepare yourself. Relax 15 minutes to freshen up when he arrives. Straighten your clothes, weave a ribbon in your hair: be fresh and cheerful when he comes.
*Be a fun and interesting conversation partner. He needs a boost after a tiring day, and it is the wife’s responsibility to provide that.
*Clean up at home. Walk around the rooms before he arrives – make sure everything is clean.
*Remove textbooks, toys, newspapers. Wipe dust everywhere.
*Make a fire in the fireplace during the colder months. Your husband will feel that he has reached an oasis of rest and order, and will rejoice. Plus, taking care of its comfort will give you immense personal satisfaction.
*Take care of the children. For small children, wash and wash their hands, comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. Children are a little treasure, he will be pleased to see them in the appropriate form. Keep quiet. Turn off the washer, dryer and vacuum cleaner when he arrives. Try to convince the children to be quiet.
*Be sincerely happy to see him.
How to meet a man:
*Greet him with a warm smile and show your sincere desire to please him.
*Listen to him. You may have a lot of important things to tell him, but don’t do it the moment he comes back. Let him speak first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
*Make this evening his evening. Never complain if he comes late or has dinner and fun without you.
*Your job: to ensure that the home is a place of calm, order and peace where your husband can perk up in spirit and body.
*Don’t dump your complaints and problems on him.
*Don’t complain if he is late for dinner or doesn’t show up for the night at all. Treat it like a trifle compared to what he went through during the day.
*Make him comfortable. Sit him down in a comfortable chair or lay him on the bed.
*Have a soft or warm drink ready for him.
*Correct the pad for him and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing, and pleasant voice.
*Do not ask questions about his actions and do not question his judgments. Remember, he is the head of the family.
PS
And more from the “Guide to Housekeeping”, from the part “Tips for Men”:
“After having an intimate act with your wife, you must let her go to the bathroom, but you don’t need to follow her, let her be alone. She might want to cry. “
Don’t overplay your ideal wife.
Olga Frolova, psychologist:
“Despite the patriarchal nature of these councils, they have a healthy idea that you need to show respect, attention and care to your partner.
It’s good when home is the kind of place where you can really rest and unwind, and not just another battlefield. However, you should not overplay, portraying the ideal wife if dissatisfaction has arisen in the relationship.
It is better to discuss problems in the form of a constructive dialogue, without turning to accusations against each other. For example, instead of “You pay me little attention”, you can say: “You come home late from work, and I feel that I miss your attention, let’s spend the weekend together?” The desire and willingness to agree is already half the solution to the situation.
Finally, I would like to add that in a couple, this behavior is relevant not only for women. “