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When he arrives at school, your child will discover a lot of new things. Teachers, friends … All these novelties can be a source of anxiety and create difficulties in learning at school. We take stock of these problems that can appear after the start of the school year and the various means of remedying them.
My child tells me he doesn’t like school
The school is neither the nursery, the day-care center nor the leisure center, and children can feel lost in it. It’s a new, big place with a lot of staff. As long as it is a first break, for children looked after by a nanny or at home, the passage can be tricky. To help your child, you need to speak positively about school, but honestly. You don’t put it there “because mom and dad are working”, and it’s not a “where he’s going to play” place. He must understand that he has a personal interest in going there, to make acquisitions, to grow up. Now he’s a student. That said, if he keeps saying he doesn’t like school, you have to understand why. Take a meeting with the teacher and get your child to talk. He does not dare or does not know how to express his underlying reasons: a friend who annoys him at recess, a problem in the canteen or daycare … You can also use a youth album on the different times of school : it can help him to express his feelings.
My child’s class is at two levels
Often more worrying for parents than for children, dual-level classes are very enriching. The little ones are bathed in rich language; they go faster in learning. The grown-ups become role models and feel valued and responsible, which promotes their autonomy. They also pass on their knowledge to them, which helps them consolidate it. For his part, the teacher takes care to respect the different levels, with regard to the specific learning of each group.
My child is restless after returning to school
Back to school is stressful for the whole family : you have to get back to the rhythm of the year after the holidays, reorganize yourself in the family, find a baby-sitter, make medical appointments, register for extracurricular activities … In short, the restart is not easy for anyone! Emulation in the classroom is also tiring : the children have long collective days, in a large group. The little ones must learn to adjust to this new rhythm. Fatigue is poorly managed and children get angry quickly. Therefore, it is important toensure a regular rhythm “Sleep-wake-recreation” at home.
My child has been wetting the bed since the start of the school year
Very often, cleanliness is freshly acquired and the hustle and bustle of the start of the school year undermines this acquisition.. Children are parents in the emergency room: manage their stress, their emotions, new friends, a new adult, unfamiliar spaces, etc. They are very absorbed during the day and sometimes “forget” to ask to go to the bathroom. These can be quite far from the classroom and the “older” no longer know how to get there … Other children are embarrassed by the community, do not want to undress in front of their friends and hold back. If this is the case with yours, you can ask the teacher to make sure that he goes alone, accompanied by the ATSEM. In all cases, bring a change of clothes.
A tip: accompany him to the bathroom before he enters the classroom. This will make him feel more confident and you will take the time to explain to him how to use the paper, the toilet flush, the soap. Finally, it happens that some children pee again at night: it does not matter and, in the majority of cases, everything is back to normal before the All Saints holidays. One thing not to do: give him diapers, he would feel devalued.
Rased, a solution to help your child?
If your child seems to have really significant difficulties when he returns to school, know that in the national education, teams are formed within his establishment to help him develop at best within the school environment. . The Specialized aid networks for children in difficulty (Rased) can thus help your child in his academic success. They are part of the educational team of the establishments and regularly intervene in small groups. They will thus set up personalized courses for pupils in difficulty. They can also set up a psychological follow-up in agreement with the parents and the teacher. The Raseds are present in nursery and primary.
Is Rased compulsory?
If the question comes up often, don’t worry. The Specialized Aid Network for Children in Difficulty will not be imposed on you. It is absolutely not mandatory. However, if the child’s difficulties are significant, teachers can contact Rased, but parents will always have the final say as to whether to ask.
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