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To prevent and better manage violence in schools, social psychologist Edith Tartar Goddet invites each parent to discuss it with their child beforehand. It is important to explain to him that he does not have to do something by force, that he does not have to be pushed around by other students… and especially that he must discuss it with an adult.
Bullying at school: not taking justice into your own hands
“If you find out that your child has been assaulted, you should neither dramatize nor start straight away. Violently attacking the student who harassed him or the teacher who humiliated him is not a good solution. The mirror reactions are very bad, ”explains psychosociologist Edith Tartar Goddet.
In the first place, it is better to talk to your child, to ask him for details of the acts committed. “Then, to get a global view of the situation, meet with the teacher or management. This approach will make it possible to implement actions. “
Note: some children do not speak, but express themselves with their body (stomach ache, stress…). “This does not necessarily mean that they are harassed, but it is important to discuss with them to find out what is going on and to make any arrangements,” warns Edith Tartar Goddet.
Support your child in the event of bullying
When a child is a victim of school violence, it is essential to support him, underlines the psychosociologist Edith Tartar Goddet. “For example, make sure he doesn’t come home from school alone…”
It is also necessary to differentiate the disagreements and aggressiveness between pupils (which do not lead to any trauma) from real violence and harassment. Children who are victims, often in shock, express themselves in an exaggerated manner. They may therefore need psychological support.
Bullying at school: when to file a complaint?
In the event of real violence at school, it is important to file a complaint. “Because of an overload of work, some police stations will push you to simply file a handrail, especially in the event of moral harassment. But if you judge that the complaint is necessary, and that the acts committed are reprehensible, listen to yourself ”, underlines the specialist Edith Tartar Goddet.