Resentment is not just done … In connection with an event understood as an insult, to put pressure on the offender, we turn on anger (protest, accusations, aggression). If the possibility of direct aggression is closed (by impossibility or blocked by fear), then:
- To attract attention, we launch suffering (sadness or annoyance), we begin to harm ourselves.
- The accumulated aggression turns inside the body, during the conflict physiological processes take place that are useful for the survival of the individual, but harmful to its health.
Total: As an independent feeling, there is no feeling of resentment. Behind the “resentment” (“offense”) is either pure anger, or a mixture of anger (anger), fear and annoyance.
Resentment is a complex non-basic emotion derived from unexpressed anger.
When and how strongly does the feeling of resentment arise?
The feeling of resentment arises in the one who made it to himself — offended himself.
With the habit and desire to be offended, a person is offended (offends himself) at anything.
Resentment often arises from illiterate work with anger. “Is such a smart and adult person like me offended?” — the phrase is weak, it cannot cope with anger, and if I continue to be angry, then I am not-smart and not-adult … Or: “he is not worth it for me to be offended by him!” — similarly.