“My son constantly whines that he is bored and has absolutely nothing to do. It feels like he’s just waiting for me to entertain him. I tried to switch it and offered to do household chores or read, but he does not want to. Sometimes he can just lie on the bed and look at the ceiling, and when I ask: «What are you doing?» — he replies: «I miss you.» This attitude to time angers me.”
In our society, children are used to always being entertained. Television, computer games do not give a minute of rest. As a result, children have forgotten how to walk, play with friends on the street, do not go in for sports and do not have hobbies. At the same time, they are constantly waiting for someone to entertain them. What to do?
- Teach your child to play with the toys that are at home. Perhaps he simply does not know what to do with all this bunch of balls and cars lying in the basket. dolls, designers, etc.
- Apply the technique: “we play with mom, we play ourselves.” Play together first, then map out ways of what else can be done, and tell your child, «I’m going to do the housework, and you finish what we started, and then call me.»
- Perhaps the toys that are offered to the child are not appropriate for his age. If a child used to play something, but now stopped — most likely, he has already grown out of this game. If he does not know what to do and is not interested in all the possibilities of a new thing, most likely it is still too early for him. If the child does not play with any toys during this period, simply remove them from his eyes for a while.
- Use any means to organize the game. Fantasy and creativity develop much better if the child is given not ready-made games, but material for their manufacture. Focus on activities that require long and painstaking work: build a city out of boxes on a piece of cardboard, draw streets, a river, build a bridge, launch paper ships along the river, etc. You can make a model of a city or village for months, using this old magazines, glue, scissors. packaging from medicines or cosmetics, as well as your own imagination.
- For older children, introduce a tradition in the house: to play chess. It is not necessary to devote several hours a day to the game. Just start the game, put the board on a rarely used table, put a sheet of paper and a pencil next to you to write down the moves, and make 1-2 moves a day. As soon as the child gets bored, you can always come up and think about the game.
- Limit your time watching TV and playing computer games. Invite your child to teach him to play street games, such as hide-and-seek, Cossack-robbers, tags, bast shoes, etc.
- Make a list of things to do with your child. if you get bored. The next time your child complains, say, “Look, please. your list.»
- Sometimes the child does not even try to occupy himself with anything: he simply does not want anything and is not interested in anything. Usually this situation develops at the age of 10-12 years. This is due to the low energy level of the child. Try to reduce the load, make sure that he gets enough sleep, go for a walk more.
- If the child continues to pester you, say: «I understand you, I get bored sometimes too.» Listen carefully to the child, but do not try to do anything yourself. Go about your business and listen to him, making vague sounds in response: “Uh-huh. Yes. Yes». In the end, the child will understand that you do not intend to do anything to dispel his boredom, and he will find something to do on his own.