Mom is certainly the closest and most necessary person for a child from birth, only she can understand what he needs. But if the mother can’t cope, then she sends her daughter to the father — he certainly knows the answer to any question, and most importantly, can solve any problem! Natalia Poletaeva, a psychologist, mother of three children, tells about the role of the father in the life of her daughter.
In many ways, it is the father who influences the formation of the correct self-esteem in the daughter. The praise and compliments received from the father have a positive effect on the girl, give her self-confidence. “Daddy, I’ll marry you!” can be heard from a three-year-old girl. Many parents simply do not know how to react to this. Do not be afraid — if your daughter said that she will only marry her father, it means that he is fully coping with his duties! The father is the first man to whom the daughter wants to please. So it’s no wonder she wants to be his wife. She craves his attention and feels happy.
A father who learns the secrets of raising a daughter will become an unquestionable authority for her. She will always share her experiences with him and ask for advice. If the girl grew up in a prosperous family, growing up, she will definitely compare the young man with his father. If the daughter, on the contrary, had problems in communicating with the father, then her future chosen one is likely to be the complete opposite of him. The father plays a huge role in the sexual identification of the child. Moreover, the formation of male and female character traits is formed in a child up to 6 years old. “Dad’s” upbringing gives the daughter to feel confident in communicating with the opposite sex, which will help in the future to find family happiness.
The father and daughter must have time spent together. Heart-to-heart conversations, games and walks — these moments my daughter will remember and appreciate. Dad comes up with games that make Mom dizzy. With it, you can climb trees and show risky (according to my mother) acrobatic numbers. The father allows the child more and thus gives him a sense of freedom.
The daughter sees that the mother herself quite often turns to the father for help — everything that requires courage and physical strength is done by the father. She very quickly understands that a woman needs male support and can receive it.
A father should not dismiss the problems of his little daughter, even if they sometimes seem frivolous and frivolous to him. The daughter needs her father to listen carefully to all her news. Mom is also interesting, but for some reason, mom is much more likely than Dad to forbid something.
There is an opinion that dad is strict, and mom is soft, is this really true? Practice shows that dads rarely punish their daughters. And if the pope makes a remark, it is usually to the point. And his praise is “more expensive”, because the daughter does not hear it as often as her mother’s.
What to hide, many dads dream only of a son, but life shows that dads love their daughters more, even if there is a son in the family.
If the parents are divorced, of course, it is very difficult for a woman to overcome emotions and continue to maintain communication with the father of the child, however, if possible, still try to follow some rules:
– allocate time for communication between your daughter and dad (for example, on weekends);
— when talking to a child, always talk about dad as the best person in the world.
Of course, there is no ready-made recipe for family happiness, but for the harmonious development of a girl, both parents are necessary–both mom and dad. Therefore, dear mothers, trust your spouse with the upbringing of your daughter, observe a unified approach to education with him and always emphasize his merits!