Relationship with a partner turned muddy? Or are you happy but think it could be even better? With the 2-2-2 rule, you can turn the time spent together into a long-awaited and bright holiday. And forget about everyday problems for a while.
It often happens that people who are connected by long-term relationships, domestic problems, children, forget that they are not only spouses, but also lovers. Check: what is written below is about you?
- In the morning, right after the alarm goes off, you jump into the shower and rush to work instead of lying in bed a little more, cuddling under the covers, telling each other dreams, sharing plans for the day.
- After work, you watch TV series or sit on your phone each, rather than chatting or having fun together.
- Weekends are always the same routine: he plays games on the Playstation, she goes to yoga and meets her friends. Or he walks with the children, and she cooks lunch and dinner. Hugging and having sex? We reschedule again for next week.
If you realize that you have been living together for a long time as neighbors, that you have less and less joint activities (and we do not take into account walking with children, cooking, cleaning), that you have lost contact with each other, the “2-2-2” rule just for you.
It will keep the routine from completely killing off the chemistry between you, making the relationship fresh and exciting. You will again feel that there is no one closer to you. Most importantly, don’t wait until every day turns into Groundhog Day. Free up space on your calendar and love each other deeper and brighter.
Every two weeks
The first two in the 2-2-2 rule means that you eat beautifully and deliciously together every 14 days. Pick up a chic restaurant or cafe. Book in advance – so that you definitely find a place and the evening does not become a disappointment. Let this be a surprise for one of you. Swap next time and the second person will surprise you by choosing a different place for dinner.
Maybe you will go to the Italian cafe where you had your first date. Maybe look at what new shopping centers have opened in the neighborhood, and in them – new cafes. Let it be a respectable restaurant today, and another time a small bar with three tables. Instagram offers many options. Try to check the virtuality on the tooth.
There is another plus in such dates: you create an opportunity for each other to dress up in an evening dress and change your home tracksuit for a dress and jacket. And see each other differently – beautiful.
Every two months
The second deuce means a weekend just for you – without shopping, cleaning the apartment and other obligations. Turn off your phones, drive to a new location, book a hotel room on an unknown road that you can choose just by closing your eyes and pointing your finger at the map.
You will have time for deep conversations: about dreams, about thoughts and views, about feelings. “Real Talk” is in vogue. The real conversation is not about the routine affairs of the family, the worries about the apartment, work, but about the secret, about what has been spinning in the language and thoughts for a long time, but there was no time to tell each other.
Or maybe you have been sitting in four walls and your bodies require movement? Nothing is more invigorating and refreshing than a wellness trip or a hike just for two – without friends and children. The possibilities are endless – it’s best to choose what suits your couple. Try something new. It is likely that this will give a fresh impetus to the relationship.
Every two years
Every second year of your partnership, you must, according to the 2-2-2 rule, take vacations with just the two of you. And try to put your phones down, or better yet, turn them off, even if you really want to upload endless photos and stories. So you can enjoy the moment, look into each other’s eyes more and create memories that belong only to you.
If you still want to capture beautiful sunsets or a romantic breakfast in bed, record everything on camera. It sounds old-fashioned, but you won’t be able to immediately share a photo with your friends. Live happy moments after your vacation when you download videos to your home computer. Well, choose the best photos for social networks without sacrificing personal time with each other.
If you find the 2-2-2 rule too rigid or unworkable, you can always change it. And offer something of your own.