What to do with a wedding ring, veil, wedding dress if the family is broken up? We learned what signs, traditions and common sense say about this.
Parting is always difficult, whatever the path to divorce. Even when all the worst is over, there are still questions of how to live on. And things that remind you of a time when you were still happy. What to do with a wedding dress, glasses, wedding ring and other attributes of family life? Should you leave wedding icons in the house if you not only registered at the registry office, but also stood together at the altar?
Opinions on this matter are different. Some are convinced that these are ordinary things, and there is no need to attribute non-existent qualities to them. This means that you should do with them as the hostess herself wants and sees fit. Others are sure that wedding attributes and gifts keep the energy of the person who was nearby. Consequently, they broadcast all the negativity associated with discord in the family, do not allow to “attract” another man and build new, happier relationships.
So, first you need to decide which position is closer to you. If the first one, then just put aside those things that are dear to you, and wait until the emotions calm down and the troubles are forgotten. It’s another matter if everything related to the ex-husband evokes painful memories, and signs of wedding happiness not only get in the way at home, but also prevent you from living further. Here are five rituals to help you.
The wedding dress and veil need to be cleaned, carefully checking to see if they have any of your hairs, a trace of lipstick, pins – anything that may be associated with your energy. Then put it up for sale or take it to the rental shop of wedding paraphernalia. The money raised must be fully spent on detergents, a broom, a mop – in a word, any consumables for cleaning. Do not save and do not take the change – there should not be money left, they will not bring good. After that, arrange a general cleaning of your apartment. When cleaning your house, tell yourself that you are freeing yourself from the past and opening the way for new relationships, good joyful events in your life.
A wedding ring is a special thing, the main symbol of your relationship. It is believed that after a divorce, it must be removed. Wearing it as a piece of jewelry, even on the left hand, is highly undesirable. If you feel that you want to get rid of this thing, sell it, but first give it to melt. Fire cleans and removes both negativity and your energy. Let another piece of jewelry be made from your ring – that’s what it will be possible to sell. And the money is better to give to charity. You can also keep the melted jewelry, but only if you want to maintain friendly relations with your ex-husband.
Another option is to let the ring float down the river. Make a boat or a small raft, put a ring, flower petals. You can light a small candle in a tin case – the kind that is started to float in vases. And let your past sail with a light heart. The ship will take with it all the bad memories and experiences.
This is exactly what you should do with wedding glasses – smash them to smithereens. At home, the fragments are useless, so it is better to leave or go with them somewhere to a deserted place where no one will get hurt, and swinging well, crush the fragile crystal or glass with all your heart. Take a broom with you – it can be from the arsenal of cleanliness that was bought with the money received from the sale of a wedding dress. Sweep them all the fragments that you see, and throw out the broom itself.
If you and your ex-husband got married, then there are attributes in the house that cannot be thrown away. These are wedding icons and candles. The priests say that the icons can be given to the church, and candles can be lit there in the church for the health of loved ones. But you can leave it. It is not worth hiding the icons somewhere in the closet, leave them in the same place. Orthodox traditions have nothing to do with superstition, so in this case there is no question of bad omens. On the contrary, the wedding icon helps to tune in to good thoughts, contributes to the fact that everything will work out and the hostess of the house will not remain celibate. To pray or not is a matter of personal attitude to faith, but it is possible and necessary to turn mentally to the icon and ask for help in meeting your soul mate.