Threesome is a sexual relationship that involves 3 partners. All combinations are allowed: 2 men and 1 woman, 2 women and 1 man, 3 women or 3 men. In practice, threesomes are experienced as a couple: partners occasionally invite a third person to share a sexual act. This experience satisfies couples whose passion is waning, or those with a significant sexual appetite and whose quest for novelty excites.

Far from the sexual mores reserved for the most reckless, and connoted hard, amateur threesome is part of the sexual experiences widespread among couples. At the initiative of a partner, the lovers together choose a third party – man or woman, according to each person’s preferences – and invite them to share, during a sexual act, their intimacy.

Why let yourself be tempted by amateur threesomes?

Life together, ultimately, tests the couple. When the lovers practice their sexuality in a monotonous way, and space the coitus more and more, the couple is directly impacted. Routine, boredom, and lack of carnal pleasure can quickly become a source of relationship deterioration. This is when some lovers decide to boost their sexuality. Among the means to achieve this: amateur triolism. By inviting a 3rd person, the couple derives several benefits:

• The lovers have a unique experience likely to reboost their libido.
• The third party invited to lovemaking can give new ideas for sexual practice – positions, rhythm, dirty talk …
• Partners put themselves in danger, a source of excitement.

The risks of the 3-person plan:

Amateur threesomes can endanger the couple to the point of breaking up. When one of the partners discovers a much more fulfilling sexuality at the time of the threesome, he may choose to see the third person again and form an unseemly relationship for the other member of the couple. The threesome can also excite to the point that a lover wishes to repeat the experience with each sexual intercourse: the other is no longer enough.

When the couple experience threesomes for the first time, it makes sense to follow a few ground rules.

• Choose the right person: when finding the ideal third party, lovers can think of a person they know or a stranger. Inviting an ex-lover on a threesome experience can be tempting, but turns out to be risky if exes rediscover a passion for each other. Jealousy can also hurt the couple in this context. In practice, it is about choosing someone from the entourage, to know what to expect, but without intimate connection with one or the other of the members of the couple. Some will look for the last of the trio in a swingers club.
• Set rules and respect them: who is authorized to do what act? The members of the couple are not necessarily inclined to agree to all forms of exchange at the time of the threesome. The wife of the couple can for example refuse that her lover enters or kisses the third person of the trio. The man of the couple can refuse the double penetration of his partner. The 3 people who experience threesomes have every interest in discussing verbally before the act to lay the foundations.     
• To protect yourself : whoever the third party is invited to the threesome, it is important for the 3 lovers to use condoms.

Among the most widespread, the fantasy of threesomes is often shared by men and women. As long as it takes place under the right conditions, the experience of threesomes is often beneficial. A threesome allows you to try a new practice, without going beyond the limits of the couple. The threesome can take place with respect for the sensuality of the partners without the hard character of certain other new experiences.

In the majority of cases, the man will fantasize about a threesome with another woman, which generally suits his partner. Because this context favors gentleness, but also because the woman is often more inclined to a homosexual relationship than a man.