Sexuality and pregnancy: mothers testify

No, I did not experience the explosion of the 2nd trimester …

Marie waited in vain for the rise of desire: “I had been warned that in the first trimester, I risked being a little asleep. I was waiting for the rest, I had heard so much about this “increased pleasure”… I cried about being so disgusted with sex ”.

It’s the surprise! In the great upheaval that is pregnancy, we expected everything except that: no more desire! We know that in the first trimester, the little worries of pregnancy often get the better of our libido. On the other hand, you were “promised” a peak of desire – long live the hormones – from the 2nd trimester. And you find yourself helpless not to feel anything different. Worse ! To be even less in demand than before. It happens ! The most important thing is to preserve your intimacy with your partner by caresses, erotic games, all the means that allow you to keep in contact.

Help, my libido is at its zenith!

“Pregnancy allowed me to discover sensations other than those I had before,” explains Geraldine. I am more sensitive to certain caresses, to certain gestures… and I find it great to “re” discover my own body… ”Some pregnant women are surprised by their brand new libido. It is true that under the effect of progesterone (the pleasure hormone) the sensitivity of the skin, breasts and clitoris is exacerbated and vaginal sensations can be much more intense. For Hélène, the new sensations are even more violent: “From the first weeks of pregnancy until the end, I had a libido worthy of an X movie, which is not at all in my habits. I needed to have a brimming sex life every day, our intercourse got almost wild and I needed to spice it up with accessories. “

My husband refuses to make love to me

Agathe is worried: “He doesn’t touch me anymore, even hugs, there’s nothing for a while, sir is sleeping!” It’s really depressing, I feel bad in my head and in my body… I don’t know if he realizes, but I am depressed. “

Very often husbands are taken aback by your new status as “the life-bearer”. Before, you were his wife and his lover and now you are the mother of his child. Sometimes it does not take more to cause a slight blockage. In addition, your body changes, sometimes dramatically, which can inspire a certain reserve, even recoil. He no longer dares to touch you, he is afraid of hurting you (you and the fetus) or he is simply not attracted to this new body. Don’t panic, everything happens so fast! Sometimes it just takes a little while, other times tenderness and hugs will keep you patient until after birth.

My husband is shocked by my sexual appetite

“During the first two months, between fatigue and nausea, it was dead calm, but this is terrible, I have incredible fantasies! My darling turns out to be my favorite sex toy and I can see that it bothers him a little ”, Estelle wonders. No wonder: the second trimester is often a very pleasant period of pregnancy. The pregnant woman feels desirable and sexy, her breasts have grown but she is not yet too weighed down and feels less tired … And her hormones, completely turned upside down, frequently trigger real sexual urges in her … Your husband can, sure, be unsettled by your new appetite. Reassure him, just explain that this is all normal … and hormonal. It’s a safe bet that the two of you will enjoy this excitement.

I’m ashamed of the steamy erotic dreams I have

“Around 3 months of pregnancy I started having erotic dreams. Often times I am not pregnant, or I am not with my husband. Yet our sex life is very pleasant. “Geraldine is worried:” Sometimes I find myself with a woman, or several men. In any case, I am often very provocative and that scares me. Is this my true nature? ” Pregnancy is a period of psychological reorganization during which your subconscious will work a lot. Add to that your hormones which increase your libido tenfold (and which do not stop at night), you have more erotic dreams than the others and you wake up in a state of arousal that is difficult to control. Whether they are nice or vulgar, even degrading, don’t worry, dreams are not reality. And take advantage of it because it is not sure whether you will continue after birth.

I find it indecent to make love until the last day

“I could not make love at the end of my pregnancy, explains Estelle, and besides my husband was embarrassed too. It seemed almost indecent to us so much we visualized the baby ”. It is true that between your huge belly and all the exams, especially the ultrasounds which give an increasingly precise image, you end up “seeing” your baby. But fear not, he does not see you! It is well protected in the uterus and then in the amniotic sac. No risk therefore. As long as there is no medical contraindication, you can have sex… even until the last day. Of course, you have to adapt your practices to your new figure, which can even help you innovate!

Finally, better than glass, making love can help trigger childbirth. First of all because the semen contains prostaglandin, which participates in the maturation of the cervix and also because during orgasm, you secrete oxytocin, a hormone that advances labor during childbirth.

I discovered new sexual practices

 Hélène spiced up her sexuality: “I quickly felt the urge to discover new things with my husband. He gave me a vibrating ring and we explored lots of new sensations ”. Pregnancy, and its famous explosion of libido (when it arrives), is an opportunity to discover new practices. You can afford everything, gently! Sex toys for example are not at all contraindicated, and if you feel like it – sometimes for a long time – you can indulge in sodomy!

The most important thing is not to lose sight of and “skin” with your partner. So even if the urge isn’t there, don’t get into an asexual relationship. Physical contact can be done differently, through playful situations, oral caresses,… Don’t hesitate!