Sexual submission, which is opposed to domination, is a game between partners which consists in adopting an attitude of dominant or dominated. This fantasy allows you to experience a position of letting go or, conversely, a feeling of power during sex. So what is the relationship between sex and submission?

Sexual submission is a consensual play of behavior, or roles, which results in an attitude of passivity vis-à-vis the dominant partner (s) during sexual intercourse. This fantasy of being dominated is experienced by men as well as women, and the roles can be quite interchangeable. Thus, the submissive, or dominated, shows himself to be obedient to the desires of the dominant. This can translate into different ways. Thus, submission can be experienced through practices such as bondage, spanking, etc. The dominant can also impose certain sexual positions, require to respond to a scenario or make wear an outfit to his dominated. Submission is a game with an erotic aim, a way of experiencing the sexual act: it does not correspond to specific acts. This is a way of thinking in which we position ourselves, a sort of common thread that will influence the course of the sexual act.

This fantasy of submission or domination can be explained in several ways. For example, you may want to do it to put yourself in the shoes of a role that you are not used to playing on a daily basis. In fact, submission makes it possible to experiment with different behaviors, which change from the ordinary. It can also be a way to spice up your sex life and think outside the box, trying new experiences. But wanting to be submissive during sex does not indicate that this is your nature on a daily basis. We must know how to distinguish the behaviors in sexual fantasies from everyday life, where our personality is not necessarily the same.

During sexual intercourse, when we are in a position of submission, we leave control of the act to the other partner. Indeed, the one who dominates becomes the one who controls, and it is therefore he or she who controls the course of things. It is therefore the dominant who takes the responsibilities. Conversely, the dominated can live the experience as a kind of letting go, which allows him to have a feeling of abandonment. Thus, sexual submission can be a form of outlet: by giving power to your partner, you agree to no longer control everything and trust him blindly. This abandonment can make it easier to access enjoyment.

Unlike submission, sexual domination allows you to gain the upper hand in the relationship. The one who has the position of the dominant indeed feels powerful, since it is he who has the power for a given period. Some people need this feeling of power in order to achieve enjoyment. This position can also be synonymous with pleasure as you decide how you are going to satisfy your partner. Domination can thus be an opportunity to reverse roles within the couple, if usually one is more in control than the other.

Be careful not to confuse the game of dominant / dominated with constraint. Indeed, submission, whatever role you adopt, must be wanted by both partners. This is a scenario, a game of a sexual nature which should in no case be imposed on the couple. Consent is therefore the golden rule. Likewise, if you feel that you or your partner is uncomfortable in their role of dominant or dominated, speak up. Submission should not be synonymous with frustration and embarrassment. Forcing your partner to any sexual practice constitutes aggression and a deep lack of respect. Know how to set limits and define a precise framework for your fantasies.