Contents
- Myth 1: Men should be ready for sex anytime, anywhere.
- Myth 2: Sex without an orgasm is not sex.
- Myth 3: Only women with perfect bodies can enjoy sex.
- Myth 4: Cheating happens because something is missing in the relationship.
- Myth 5: It’s easy for women to have a vaginal orgasm.
- Myth 6: Sex at the beginning of a relationship should be dizzying.
- Myth 7: If you have to use artificial lube, then the woman is not aroused
- Myth 8: If the sexual needs of partners do not match, the relationship is doomed.
Clients of sexologists often talk about their ideas about sex. Many of these notions are wrong and can be harmful. We asked experts to comment on myths and misconceptions.
Myth 1: Men should be ready for sex anytime, anywhere.
Men are not always ready for sex. A man can get tired, worry, worry. Perhaps he needs to sort out his feelings, including in relation to his partner. As he gets older, he needs more direct penis stimulation before and during intercourse.
Women should remember that sex should be enjoyable for both partners. Ask a man what turns him on, and do what he wants, actively and enthusiastically.
Myth 2: Sex without an orgasm is not sex.
Sex is not limited to ordinary intercourse that ends in orgasm. If you think so, it’s time to look at it more creatively and realistically.
Sex is kissing, hugging, sensual massage. And oral and anal stimulation, and caresses with hands, and mutual masturbation. Dirty talk, reading erotic stories or watching porn together, role-playing, and exchanging fantasies. Expand your ideas, stop limiting yourself and get more pleasure from intimate relationships.
Myth 3: Only women with perfect bodies can enjoy sex.
Popular culture inspires the idea that only the most beautiful and attractive women can enjoy sex. Men usually do not notice the physical «shortcomings» of women. At that moment, there is only one thought in their head: “My God, there is a naked woman next to me!” It doesn’t matter how you look, if you love your body, you will like it.
To do this, you may need to learn to appreciate your uniqueness and uniqueness. When a woman begins to view her imperfections as charming features, she learns to love herself, which in turn allows her to learn to love others.
Myth 4: Cheating happens because something is missing in the relationship.
Sometimes this happens, but this is only one of the reasons. Many, being happy in a relationship with a permanent partner, start romances on the side, because a «good» opportunity has appeared, that is, it seems that change can be easily and with minimal risk.
Some people are impulsive in nature. Even the goods in the supermarket are arranged with the expectation of them: ordinary goods are in the usual places, and closer to the checkouts are what they buy spontaneously.
Myth 5: It’s easy for women to have a vaginal orgasm.
Many still believe that women can easily experience vaginal orgasm. Most require clitoral stimulation for this. This information shocks many people, even doctors come across among them.
This myth hurts relationships. The woman turns out to be dissatisfied, and it seems to the man that he is somehow inferior. With spontaneous sex without foreplay and additional stimulation, women rarely reach orgasm.
Myth 6: Sex at the beginning of a relationship should be dizzying.
Many are convinced of this. Occasionally it happens, but more often the sex is just normal or good. Most people take time to achieve sexual harmony. For intimacy, you need to get to know your partner better both psychologically and sexually. When you find yourself in bed with a new partner, you don’t know anything about his or her preferences and you don’t know how sexually compatible you are.
In addition, you are nervous, you are pressured by expectations. Ask at the beginning of the meeting the question: “Do I want to see this person again?” If everything went perfectly from the very beginning, you as a couple would have nowhere to grow. Joint growth and development brings partners together.
Myth 7: If you have to use artificial lube, then the woman is not aroused
Artificial lubrication, although many do not like it, can be very useful. Not always, when a woman is excited, a sufficient amount of natural lubrication is released. Excitation first manifests itself on a psychological level, and not on a physical one, in these cases a small amount of lubrication can come in handy.
Myth 8: If the sexual needs of partners do not match, the relationship is doomed.
The most common problem is the mismatch of sexual needs, that is, one of the partners wants sex more often than the second. There is no couple in which the relationship lasts a long time and partners want sex equally often. Therefore, a different level does not mean at all that the relationship is hopeless.
It is important to discuss with your partner how often you want to make love, to recognize that he may have other needs. If your sexual desires are drastically different, you should seek the help of a professional who can help you work out a compromise.