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A plus sign on a pregnancy test, a positive blood test. That’s it, our life is forever turned upside down. We ask ourselves lots of questions, and that’s normal! With a little preparation and these few tips, you will be able to cope perfectly with the great upheaval of a first pregnancy.
A first pregnancy: what upheavals!
Happiness, excitement, doubts … from the confirmation of a first pregnancy, emotions mingle and intermingle. And for good reason: having a baby is quite an upheaval, starting with a physical change, somewhat unsettling. For nine months, our body is transformed to best accommodate our baby. With some surprises also on the horizon: mood swings, incongruous desires, funny dreams …
This new image is also accompanied by a psychic upheaval “Pregnancy is a crossroads in life that forces us to leave our place of child to become a parent in our turn: it is not nothing!“, Underlines Corinne Antoine, psychologist. Nine months are therefore more than necessary to tame these new sensations. “It takes time to build maternal feeling, and make room for this baby in his head and in his marriage“, Continues Corinne Antoine. “There is no age to become a mother. On the other hand, depending on the childhood we have lived, and in particular the relationship we have with our mother, it can be more or less complicated. “
Pregnancy also upsets our couple. Often, as the expectant mother, one enjoys all the attention of those around one at the expense of the father, who may sometimes feel left out, as if he had played no part in the story. So be careful not to leave it. So we share with him everything we feel, so that he too can embark on this adventure and take his place as a father.
The (normal) anxieties of a first pregnancy
Will I be a good mother? How will the delivery go? Will I be in pain? Will my child be healthy? How to organize for the future? … The questions that we ask ourselves are numerous and quite normal. Giving birth for the first time means doing the big leap into the unknown ! Rest assured, we all had the same anxieties, including those that have already been there, for a second, third or fifth baby!
The secret to understanding the arrival of our baby as well as possible is toanticipate changes, in particular at the level of the couple. Who says child, says less time for oneself and less time for the other. So we get organized from now on to be helped and we reserve moments for two after the birth. We can already talk a little about education (mothering, benevolence, co-sleeping or not …) even if all this is still unclear … avoid certain misunderstandings.
Live well our first pregnancy
«First of all trust yourself and your baby“, Says Corinne Antoine. «Only the mother-to-be knows what is good for her and for her child.We flee from the catastrophic childbirth stories and the mothers who scare us for the future. We read successful childbirth stories like this one told here by another mom!
We prepare our baby’s room and things so as not to be caught off guard if he decides to arrive a little earlier. We also take time for ourselves. We rest without feeling guilty, we have fun by agreeing, why not, a little shopping on the Internet… This lull is necessary to face the upheaval that awaits us. We also rely on our partner, you will see how much it is reassuring to prepare all these changes together : it’s even the best way to make sure everything goes well!
Test: Which pregnant woman are you?
Being pregnant is nine months of happiness… but not only! There are those who are constantly afraid of an incident, those who organize themselves to control everything and those who are downright on a cloud! And you, how are you living your pregnancy? Take our test.