PSYchology

This trend is confirmed by sexologists, and long before them the proverb about “a woman-berry again” was reflected. Is it true that the older a woman becomes, the brighter her sexual experiences are?

Over the years, when maternal concerns recede into the background, and youthful anxieties and complexes are replaced by experience and confidence, women become more open, liberated and … yes, attractive too.

This flowering is partly due to a sharp increase in the production of female sex hormones before the onset of menopause. But the trend goes beyond this period: studies show that women in their 30s and 40s are more sexually active than they are in their 20s. XNUMXs also experience more intense pleasure and are more likely to have multiple orgasms.

“Maturity provides excellent opportunities for the flowering of sexual pleasure. But I would not connect pleasure directly with the ability to get an orgasm, — comments sexologist Yuri Prokopenko. — It is also possible to have frequent sexual intercourse and experience strong desire, but not feel as a result of pleasure. Pleasure is the pleasurable emotion we experience with our bodily sensations.

Of course, the strength of sexual desire, excitability, sensitivity to caresses is different for everyone. But physiological characteristics do not affect our ability to enjoy as much as our sexual experience and mood.

Skills and knowledge of oneself are really developed over the years, but time does not correct deep attitudes.

No matter how old we are, enjoyment can be blocked by inhibitions and negative thoughts about ourselves. It will invariably be extinguished by guilt, anxiety, doubt, shame. In trying to meet social expectations («it’s time to have a young lover!»), a woman may demonstrate an active sex life, but in reality will not be satisfied with the relationship.

“For women, shackled by prejudices and fears, the discord between thoughts and feelings, feelings and sex usually increases with age,” emphasizes Yuri Prokopenko. — And vice versa, in women who are open to pleasure, optimistic, as a rule, the degree and frequency of pleasure increases with age. They adapt more easily to change—social, emotional, and physical.”

Of course, many events along the path of life — loss of loved ones, illness, age-related changes in the skin and body — limit the freedom to experience sexual pleasure. But after all, young people also have a lot of deterrent factors: anxiety about relationships, financial dependence, uncertainty about the future …

Ultimately, enjoyment reaches its peak when we are in touch with ourselves and our bodies, confident in our worth, and interested in relationships in the moment.

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