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The child learns the world more and more actively. Previously, he could not walk, his movement was limited. From the time when the baby learned to walk, his world has expanded and filled with many things that «require» attention to themselves. The child travels around the apartment and learns how the stove is arranged in the kitchen, what is hidden in the shoe closet, he also strives to pick up each item, inspect, twist, try “by the tooth”. But suddenly, from the side of the parents, “it’s impossible” is heard. He does not understand the reasons for this at all. Therefore, he tries again and cries when the ban sounds again. The child tries by all means available to him to express his desires. The kid still does not know how to speak to express his dissatisfaction. And new attempts to cognize the world cause new prohibitions.
Thus, the will of a small person for the first time collides with the will of an adult. A child in a year wants to act on his own, he is no longer satisfied with the position of the doll, which is fed, swaddled, given toys when they want, they talk, when they don’t want, they don’t talk. He strives to be independent, and to communicate on his own. And here is another paradox — there is a desire for communication, but there are no words to express all this yet. It can be difficult to understand what the baby wants, although he tries to express his own desires and needs.
Where does it all start?
Author — Anna Grishina, site supermams.ru — Supermoms
Approaching the first birthday of the crumbs, mothers often notice disturbing, in their opinion, changes in the behavior of the child. Psychologists give an explanation for such changes and reassure mothers. The crisis of one year is manifested in almost all children, it is not terrible at all.
The first thing parents need to understand about a developmental crisis is that a crisis occurs before a serious leap in the child’s worldview.
In addition to the crisis of one year, scientists talk about the crisis of three years and the crisis of seven years. What they have in common is that the child’s thinking and development reach a qualitatively new level. To some extent, he is outraged that he did not understand the «truth» before, he is somewhat moving away from his parents, becomes more independent and requires more freedom.
The needs of the child change, and he does not understand why the parents do not notice this immediately. Any previously non-conflict situation can cause a storm of emotions, whims and tantrums in a child.
What does the baby feel?
In the year your baby becomes more and more independent. He moves around the room without your help, reaches for things on the shelves and bedside tables, takes his first steps. The development of the child is fast.
The main discovery during this period for the child is that mom and dad are adults. They are not like him. They are allowed more than him, they can do more than he. The baby for the first time realizes himself as a person separate from his mother, and begins to show character.
When a little man is going through a crisis of one year, it seems to him that you forbid him to gnaw wires and collect cigarette butts in the street, because you do not love him. He does not understand how these items differ from «permitted». He I am sure that you are preventing him from knowing the world and its development with its prohibitions.
Your child is already wants to command you and not vice versa. He wants to choose the time for games and walks, toys, and maybe even clothes. And most importantly, he wants to communicate. Unfortunately, the speech development of a one-year-old child does not allow him to express everything he wants, but on misunderstanding on the part of parents, the baby can be angry, be naughty.
The independence of the baby during this period manifests itself in different ways. He may be offended when he is told what to do with a toy or a book, he tries to repeat their daily actions after his parents. And at this moment you need to turn the process in your favor.
Show your child how to wash their own hands before eating, how to hold a spoon, press the bell when they come from a walk, etc. It is necessary to instill responsibility and independence in a child from early childhood.
What can not be done when a child has a crisis of one year?
As you already understood, the development crisis — it is a natural process. For different children, it goes differently, when it starts earlier, and when later than a year, but almost everyone goes through it. So, do not blame the child and assume that he is to blame for you around. Do not be nervous, do not yell at the child and do not say gooey words to him.
Give a child more play space — do not tear out of the hands of the crumbs everything that is not specifically intended for games. All fragile, sharp and expensive things just remove higher, and with the rest the child can be completely allowed to play. Mom keeps a lot of interesting things in the kitchen — jar lids, unbreakable plates, spoons, a funnel for liquids, etc.
In year you can start exercising which the child would not have appreciated before. Buy your baby finger paints, a baby pipe (my son has been playing the pipe since he was 7 months old — it’s fun!), metallophone, etc. It is precisely in the crisis of child development that everything new and unknown attracts more than ever.
DO NOT start to indulge all the whims of the child, do not spoil him — the crisis of one year will end, but the whims will remain.
Experiencing the crisis of one year, it happens that the baby does not want to let his mother go away from him. This is also one of the signs of a development crisis that will soon pass. You may sometimes have to postpone shopping, or take your child with you. Try not to leave the child in tears and hysteria, even if someone close to him is with him.
I repeat once again — do not be nervous, and then you simply won’t be able to remember when your child left this troublesome, but very responsible period of development.
Good luck to you!