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If it happens that children are subjected to violence at school, it is because some have violent inclinations that push them to aggressiveness towards their comrades. Is this the case with your child? We take stock of how to best manage your bouts of violence with the psychosociologist Edith Tartar Goddet.
Violence at school, which children at risk?
Children “aggressors” most often act Group, specifies the psychosociologist Edith Tartar Goddet. On the one hand, we find the harassing individuals, and on the other, the spectators, who bring a moral guarantee to acts. “In a group, the individual no longer feels responsible and allows himself to do everything. And every child may, at some point, want test his power on others, ”explains the specialist.
“In addition, a child who is well, calm, from a privileged background, but consuming a lot of violent images, will want to experience them one day or another,” adds Edith Tartar Goddet. “It’s important not to leave a single child in front of the screen, and to put words on what he sees in order to make him think. “
School violence: accepting the fault of the aggressive child
Parents must accept their child’s violent behavior and accompany him. Some injured families prefer to deny the facts, but this behavior puts “the culprit” in a delicate situation, which could lead him to start over. Furthermore, it is also important to cooperate with teachers.
How should the school react with the abusive child?
The school, for its part, must take its responsibilities, without having a humiliating look, by setting up monitoring of young aggressors. It is advisable to make the student responsible so that he becomes aware of his actions, then to implement a sanction. “To sanction without making them responsible would risk putting the author in the position of a victim, which would lead him to reoffend,” explains psychosociologist Edith Tartar Goddet.
How to deal with a violent child?
If it is a first time, of an “experiment”, it suffices to make your child understand that he has behaved badly. “If we do things right, he won’t do it again,” explains Edith Tartar Goddet.
Do we need psychological follow-up for a violent child?
On the other hand, when it is a question of recidivism, support may be necessary. “Some children, suffering, and not necessarily deviant, express themselves through violence. When the individual is under tension, he can commit violent acts to appease his discomfort. Other children live in the immediacy. They act on impulses, even if they are very well behaved. Psychological follow-up may therefore be necessary. “