Methods and techniques for managing a child are highly dependent on:
- child control,
- views and motivation of parents, Parents often make mistakes in assessing the actions of the child and use force and put pressure on pain points where it is quite possible to get by with prevention.
- the requirements of a particular situation.
Specific Methods and Techniques
- Well Directed Freedom Method
This is the creation by adults of circumstances from which the child receives positive and negative reinforcements that direct his life and development in the right direction. See →
- Reception Pain points
Adults create sore points in the child’s soul, after which they poke them with sharp stick words, and the child begins to twitch in the right direction. The more controllable the child and the more civilized the parents, the less often this technique has to be used.
- Zero reaction
Parents often, without noticing it, reinforce the problem behavior of the child. Very often a child behaves badly because he needs your attention, and you pay attention to his defiant behavior. When the child does not receive any reactions from you, he soon stops his defiant behavior. See →
- Insulation
There is no need to arrange psychology where a problematic situation can be solved in a businesslike way, isolating the child from the situation or the situation from the child. See →
Good advice on methods of managing a child is given by Karren Pryor, where she gives ways to get rid of unwanted behavior.
- Method 2. Punishment
- Method 3. Fading
- Method 4: Generate Incompatible Behaviors
- Method 5. Behavior on a signal
- Method 6. Formation of absence
- Method 7. Change of motivation
- Insulation
- Method: Generating Incompatible Behaviors
- Method: Scarecrow
- Child’s own experience
- Method: punishment
- Method: one-two-three
- Method: signal behavior
- Method: change of motivation
- Method: timeout
- Method: fading
- Conversation method (explained)
- Method: positive reinforcement
- Method: training
- school of good manners
- Method: Learning from mistakes
- Method: Short clear requirement
- Method: Broken Record
- Method: Your Choice, Your Responsibility
Frost, walk, froze. My daughter doesn’t want to go home. So, in fact, she needs to go home and wants to write, and she is tired and cold, but she still does not realize this. I have to «get things off the ground». I just grab her and carry her about 20 meters towards the house, she is distracted from the game, her girlfriends and really understands that she needs to go home urgently. And then he says thank you. That is, we must always remember that children do not obey not because they are harmful, bad, stupid … It just happens because they are children.