Mantras for parents: 10 phrases to get you through the day

Mantra # 1. I am the best parent for my child.

When a child cries, is capricious, or misbehaves, we begin to doubt ourselves: “A friend never yells at her son, and I fell for mine for the second time in a month. Maybe being a mom is not mine? ” The feeling of guilt and the feeling of our own failure gnaws at us again and again … Stop! Put all doubts aside and understand: you and your child are given to each other for a reason. It is you who can teach him the most important things, and he, in turn, will help you open your eyes to many things. Therefore, you are the most correct parent for your toddler or teenager, and he is the most correct child for you.

Mantra # 2. Crying is the way a child communicates with me

There is nothing worse than a crying baby that you cannot stop. And if it’s night outside and you really want to sleep, and the baby can’t calm down for half an hour … It seems that he just wants to torment you! In fact, the baby talks to you through crying. Tells him that he really needs you. Complains of some problem. He just doesn’t know how to do it differently yet. But he will gradually learn.

Mantra # 3. My child is just a child.

We often get angry with our children if they talk with their mouths full, make a wild mess in the room, or repeat the same thing a hundred times. But remember: you are not living with mini-adults. Give children the opportunity to be children.

Mantra # 4. I take a break before reacting.

The rhythm of modern life is such that we are constantly running forward. The time to stop and relax is sorely lacking. And now, in a hurry, we scold the child for spilled tea, scattered toys or lost mittens … However, before making a claim, think for a moment why your beloved child did this. The son could scatter toys when he was looking for a certain typewriter. This is important for him! To spill tea – when he ran to the cry of a little sister. And he gave the mittens to a frozen friend, and then forgot to pick it up. A couple of sighs – and you can look differently at what seems to be pure hooliganism. At the very least, this will help you to recover and not cry out.

Mantra # 5: Taking Care of Yourself Is Okay

It’s not about throwing a son or daughter on grandparents, but about having fun with friends in the club every day. But one must not forget about one’s own needs. This is especially true for women who tend to blame themselves if they do not devote 100 percent of their time to the child. But the baby will sit perfectly with the father while you shower or relax in the bubble bath. And an older child does not have to sleep in the same room with his parents – the night should be their personal time. Taking some time for yourself will not make you a bad mother or father. On the contrary, by giving yourself at least a minimal respite (for example, to have a cup of coffee), you will then be able to take care of your child with renewed vigor.

Mantra 6. “Children do not distract from more important work. They are the most important work “

This quote from Clive Lewis is worth remembering for all parents. Raising a child requires a lot of time and effort, because it depends on us what kind of person he will grow up to. Remind yourself of this when your daughter comes running for “hugs”, preventing you from completing the project. And do not regret if, for the sake of playing with your son, you have to push aside a stack of not ironed linen.

Mantra No. 7. “Everything passes, and this will pass”

According to legend, this was the inscription on Solomon’s ring. Believe me, this phrase is truly wise. The moment will come when the baby will stop waking up at two in the morning and crying for milk. The two-year-old will learn to control himself and stop throwing tantrums in the store, begging for lollipop. And a teenager will not forever behave like the last rude person, and you will hear words of gratitude from him. Remember these words when it is very difficult for you.

Mantra # 8. I can only control myself.

It is really hard for parents to realize that the child is doing what he wants and not you. That this little man cannot be 100 percent controlled. You can only explain what is allowed and what is forbidden, but the kid will still take the decision himself. Our task is to create a safe environment for the child and teach him self-control. How can this be done? Only by example!

Mantra # 9. I’m not the only one who faces this

Problems and doubts about their abilities from time to time arise for all moms and dads. Even the most ideal ones. Perhaps knowing this fact will help you perk up when things seem very complicated.

Mantra 10. My child is loved and safe.

No one wants to hear a baby crying because of colic or a teenager complaining about homework that is too difficult. But the reality is this: our children will have to face difficulties. Let go of the feeling that this is your fault. Remind yourself often that you love your child and that he loves you. This will help you get through even the toughest day.