Contents
- 1. Stop making excuses for other people’s bad deeds
- 2. Understand: you don’t get what you want, not because of some higher powers, but because of yourself
- 3. Realize that being alone does not mean being abandoned.
- 4. Learn to say what you want, feel free to repeat it
- 5. Don’t settle for what you don’t want
In childhood, we dream of many things: to change the world, to conquer the mountains and the depths of the sea, to write a book and invent something. But over time, we begin to appreciate stability and security and give up our desires. Psychologist Jill Weber talks about five ways to keep your faith in yourself.
Dissatisfaction with life arises when a person constantly agrees not to what he wants, but to what is understandable, safe and easily achievable. When you start making decisions that reflect your desires, you start to feel much better, and the better you feel, the more confident you become.
No longer give up on adventures, meeting interesting people and doing things that you enjoy. Don’t be afraid of difficulties. And for courage, fate rewards you. It provides many opportunities every day.
Starting to live life to the fullest is easy if you follow these five tips:
1. Stop making excuses for other people’s bad deeds
Do you constantly try to find an excuse for other people’s rudeness towards you? “He had a hard day, so he screams and swears dirty” or “Mom had a hard life, so she makes me work without rest. She only wants the best for me.»
Your behavior speaks of self-doubt and relationship problems. Instead of trying to justify others, take the courage to talk to the person who hurts you. If you resignedly accept that your loved ones devalue you as a person, ignore what you do, and behave rudely, then you do not respect yourself and voluntarily give up a normal life.
2. Understand: you don’t get what you want, not because of some higher powers, but because of yourself
Something unpleasant happens or something that interferes with the implementation of your plans, and you say to yourself: “It is the higher powers who have decided this.” Life is sometimes unfair, but not always. Every time you try to do what you want, start with a clean slate. Otherwise, the burden of past failures will leave you vulnerable. And you will not be able to achieve heights in relationships, work and other areas.
3. Realize that being alone does not mean being abandoned.
Just because you’re single right now doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. If you can’t stand loneliness and start looking for flaws in yourself, criticizing your decisions, appearance, character, you can easily get into toxic love or friendship relationships. This happens when people try to get rid of loneliness at any cost. Accept that you are alone now, and after a while you will meet the right people.
4. Learn to say what you want, feel free to repeat it
You will not be able to get anything until you fully accept and realize your desires and tell your loved ones and those around you about them. Get in touch with your desires, both big and small. Talk about them with your family, friends and acquaintances. Say them out loud. Then you will have no escape routes.
5. Don’t settle for what you don’t want
We often agree to what is offered in order to avoid conflict or spoil the relationship. If you’re willing to do things you don’t really want to please your partner, you’re ignoring your needs, you’re losing your identity. When asked what you want for dinner, don’t answer right away, pause. Ask yourself: “What dish would I really like to see on the table?” And only after that honestly answer the interlocutor’s question.