Achieving enjoyment during a two-person sexual relationship is not always easy. Are you in a relationship, you have pleasure with your partner but cannot reach orgasm? Here are our tips to achieve this.

Orgasm, whether female or male, is a physiological response of the body that takes place at the peak of the sexual arousal phase. It takes place after stimulation of the erogenous zones and / or the sexual organs (clitoris, vagina, penis, anus, etc.) Physically, orgasm is expressed in different ways in men and in women.

• Male orgasm is often (but not necessarily) associated with ejaculation as well as muscle contractions.
• In women, it results in vaginal and perineal contractions and in retraction of the clitoris. There may also be female ejaculation.

In both sexes, orgasm causes increased breathing and heart rate. At the psychic and neurological level, orgasm leads to the release of several hormones and molecules linked to the sensation of pleasure and well-being, in particular oxytocin. Finally, orgasm is linked to strong enjoyment and intense pleasure, which can lead to a state of deep relaxation or even falling asleep. 

The feeling of love has been proven to increase the sensation of pleasure during orgasm. Indeed, the emotions related to love and passion mingle with carnal pleasure and thus allow to have a more intense orgasm.

Thus, although it is quite possible to achieve orgasm without feeling feelings for your partner, it is a priori easier to reach orgasm more easily when you make love with a woman. person we love.

Sex within a couple allows you to feel comfortable and to benefit from a framework of trust. In addition, the passion that binds you with your partner will have the effect of increasing your desire for him and thus stimulating your libido. 

There is no miracle recipe for achieving orgasm systematically. Each person and each body reacts differently. The important thing is to know your desire, your body and what gives you pleasure. Relax, relax and trust yourself. Orgasm will be easier to achieve if you are in good psychological conditions. To achieve enjoyment, try to raise the pleasure crescendo, until reaching the point of no return.

Vary the practices, alternate positions and once you feel that the excitement is strong enough, do not change any more and concentrate on your pleasure by making it go up to the maximum. Finally, do not hesitate to talk and give directions to your partner during sex, dialogue is still the best way to make the other understand his desires. 

Some tips can help you better understand the practices that allow you to enjoy. First, define which are your erogenous zones (neck, breasts, lower abdomen, feet, etc.) and encourage your partner to stimulate them. This can be through gentle gestures such as hugs or massages, or more forceful gestures such as spanking.

Also determine the sexual practices that turn you on the most (foreplay, cunninlingus, fellatio, massages, etc.) and talk to your partner about it as well. Penetration is not the only way to achieve orgasm, and perhaps experiencing oral sex can help you achieve orgasm.

Also let her know the sex positions that suit you best, the pace and intensity of back and forth. In short, the important thing is to talk and exchange within your relationship to better define what gives you pleasure. 

Do you want to have a simultaneous orgasm as a couple? Once you’ve figured out how to achieve orgasm, all that’s left is to learn how to deal with your arousal while having sex. It is indeed possible to reach orgasm simultaneously, that is to say at the same time as your partner.

This requires good communication: do not hesitate to speak during the sexual act. If you feel that orgasm is approaching, say so, and try to slow down the arousal while waiting for your partner. You can vary the intensity, slow down your movements or change your position.

However, this should not be experienced as a constraint or an obligation: the important thing is that both partners take pleasure, whether the orgasm is simultaneous or not!