It is not uncommon for a wife on maternity leave to be fully supported by her husband, and children live with their parents until they graduate from the university or buy their own housing — these are normal phenomena. But can complete financial dependence speak of deviations in personality development?
Are you an adult or a child?
Most often, any addiction is based on relationships with parents. Destructive family scenarios are reflected in all spheres of human activity. They determine both independence and the realization of the individual as a whole.
It happens that adults seem to be people become financially dependent on a figure of a higher order. As a rule, this is a person who played a significant role in education: a parent, teacher, grandmother or grandfather, and so on.
When your life, energy and finances are completely dependent on someone else, you perceive and position yourself less and less as an adult, independent person. Accordingly, you are in a childish position, which in the adult world is correlated with the role of the victim: «I can not influence my life.»
This disease is common among different people, regardless of their financial situation.
Remaining in the state of a child, a person cannot develop and realize himself in this world. He is also not able to create his own products and declare them publicly, because he is very dependent on the opinions of others.
A dependent position is an endless search for oneself with no result. A person cannot find his destiny and find himself without establishing healthy, equal relations with members of society.
When you become dependent on another, the first question you need to ask yourself is: “How old am I now?”
By honestly answering it, you will understand that you have already grown up. You do not need mother’s breast milk, guardianship and help for survival and existence. You can make your own decisions. As soon as you appreciate and realize the real you, your life will begin to change, and you yourself will contribute to this.
An adult position differs from a child’s one in that a person in it is independent, socially adapted, has the ability to survive, is able to perform productive actions and secure financial stability.
Of course, it is very nice when they help us. But we tend to get stuck in a state where we think we are being taken care of. And the price for this is great. It is equal to living our own life in vain, without investing and realizing our own resources, which leads to total dependence on others, lack of independence and unfulfillment.
What is important for women
Women’s position has traditionally been dependent. From time immemorial, a woman has been considered the guardian of the hearth, and in some countries the patriarchal model remains the norm, many ways of self-realization are closed to women.
Our task is to look around and understand that now we live in a different time and in a different world, where healthy and equal relationships with a spouse and society are the norm. Partners can realize themselves independently, fulfilling their mission, regardless of status and gender.
A childish, dependent position in a couple does not give a woman the opportunity to feel complete
She rather feels like a little girl with whom her husband does not want to share his problems, plans and success.
When we take responsibility into our own hands and understand that our life depends only on us, every decision and every step takes on meaning and can lead us to what we ourselves want. Freed from financial dependence, you become a full member of society. A self-sufficient, independent person inspires respect, and, consequently, receives the status and reputation corresponding to him.
Stop for a moment and analyze your life, reflect on the topic of freedom. Ask yourself if you can do what you want, regardless of external circumstances. Any dependence, financial or emotional, destroys the freedom of a person, making the realization of personality impossible.