3 ways to get organized in your life

Have you ever seen a fish swimming in dirty water? She looks dull, she has little energy, and she barely moves her fins, as if they were iron fetters. Swap dirty water for clean water and everything changes. The fish will come to life, become cheerful and active, and its scales will be bright.

Our thoughts and beliefs are like water. Negative life experience forms false beliefs, darkens thoughts and deprives vital energy. We begin to doubt our abilities, get stuck in unproductive relationships, and don’t allow our full potential to develop.

However, people, unlike fish, can change their «water» themselves. Many become slaves to their thoughts and do not even suspect that they can control what and how they think. They make no effort to change their mindset because they are afraid or feel they do not deserve to live in clean water.

The truth is that you can clean your aquarium. You wake up and plan your day. Smile and be positive. Invest in healthy relationships. Surround yourself with positive people. Notice happy moments. Create something. You can change your life by changing your attitude towards it.

Everything starts with thoughts and ends with them. What you think about yourself determines your reality. These three ways will help you purify your «water».

1. Determine what kind of energy you are filled with, positive or negative

If you are dominated by negative energy, you hold on to relationships that have run out of steam, cultivate your bad habits and unhealthy behaviors, sleep poorly, and constantly evaluate yourself. You worry over trifles, eat unhealthy food, quarrel, resist, swear, get angry and perceive life as a punishment.

If you are full of positive energy, you create, build and invest in yourself and the people who matter to you. You set healthy limits, listen to yourself, speak your mind freely and calmly, and daydream. You don’t judge yourself or others, you don’t label and you don’t feel fear.

You lead an active lifestyle, watch your diet, drink plenty of water, and have no problems sleeping. You know how to sincerely love and are able to forgive.

2. Become aware of the false beliefs that are shaping your life.

None of us grew up without suffering. Suffering was different: physical, moral, sexual and emotional. Someone forever remembered how he was locked in a closet, someone remembers his first unhappy love, and someone remembers the death of a loved one or the divorce of his parents. What you saw and felt, and how others treated you, largely determines your life and forms false stereotypes.

False beliefs: I will never be happy. I am a worthless person. I won’t be successful. I never get anything. I am a victim. I am a weak person. If I don’t become rich, no one will love me. I am a bad husband, father, son, etc. These and other negative thoughts define our lives, lower our self-esteem and block abilities and desires.

Now imagine what your life could be like without these thoughts. Who would you like to be friends with? Who would be invited on a date? What profession would you choose? What would you do in your free time?

3. Don’t give in to false beliefs. Do what they won’t let you do

An effective way to understand which beliefs are false and which are not is to ask yourself what you are afraid of and why.

You want to get tattoos all over your body, ride a motorcycle and play drums in a rock band. But you are afraid to upset your father, so you chose the profession of an accountant, married a decent girl and drink beer in front of the TV in the evenings. You do this because you are convinced that a good son cannot be a rocker. This is a false belief.

Try to give your definition of a good son. What should it be? And you will understand that a good relationship with your father is not connected with tattoos and a motorcycle. Now start living your life: reconnect with fellow musicians, get a tattoo and buy a motorcycle. Only in this way will you purify your “water” and feel free and happy.