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Until you try, you won’t understand. This statement is the best fit to an interesting situation. Those who have not yet experienced it are unlikely to be able to understand mothers for whom those 40 weeks are already behind.
What do we expect from pregnancy? The belly grows, the chest pours, dreams of a bright future in my head, when the baby is already born, the choice of a crib and a stroller … But in fact, what happens? Everything changes – from one’s own body to the attitude of others, to the point that the social circle becomes different. We have collected 10 problems that all pregnant women have to face and which no one thinks about until they meet them face to face.
Walking from toilet to toilet
“I can plot a route through any part of the city, taking into account the fact that every 15 minutes I have to go to the toilet,” says Alena, the mother-to-be. She is 7 months old, feels great, longs for walks and an active life, but there is no escape from the pressure of the abdomen on the bladder – you have to take this into account when planning trips around the city.
Wherever a pregnant woman goes, she immediately looks with a glance where the toilet is. And in the later stages, embarrassment happens – due to the movements of the baby and the increased production of elastin, a small incontinence can occur. And Kegel exercises will not help in such a situation.
Obsessive desires
I want a burger. No, hot dog. Or doshirak. Or chew on chalk. Maybe chew lard or sniff the sleepers? Yes, and such desires, it happens, roll over. And not just dreams of pickles, which everyone is accustomed to consider the height of the desires of a pregnant woman. Sometimes obsessive desires to eat something inedible take on severe forms, doctors even have a term for them: picacism. And sometimes this condition requires the attention of specialists.
Too hot
Even in winter. And what can we say about the summer! During pregnancy, even eternally freezing girls suddenly turn into boiling lava lakes. Hot flashes, increased sweating – this has never happened, but here you are! In addition, in the heat and pulls to faint. The only thing you want during the day is to get into the pool or at least into a cool shower. And don’t get out of there until the heat is over.
Sudden sentimentality
Anything can now become a reason to cry: a melodrama on TV, cute games of children in a sandbox, memories of the past, thoughts of the future … Because of hormones, the expectant mother becomes very soft and sensitive, it is easier for her to burst into tears. And not only because of something cute or sentimental. The girls share their memories on the forums: someone cried inconsolably because the cake was slightly smeared in the box, and someone because the husband brought the wrong cherry. Yes, future dads also have a hard time.
Same questions
Whom are you waiting for? Have you already chosen the name? Have you bought a crib? When to give birth? A bunch, just a bunch of the same questions every day. I would like to create a business card with answers to them and hand it to a person when meeting or communicating by correspondence. “On such a business card there should be one sentence:“ None of your business, ”some say tartly. Sometimes the questions can be tactless (“Have you gotten too much?”) Or too personal – you want to roll your eyes and pretend that you are overtaken by the deafness of pregnant women. Maybe you’ve heard of this?
Clothes for pregnant women
It seems as if she is either very expensive, or frankly ugly. You expect to look like Gigi Hadid, but in fact you look more like Homer Simpson dressed up in a hoodie. For some reason, it is believed that pregnant women do not want to dress glamorously. And if they want, they should be able to shell out a fortune for clothes that will be worn for a maximum of 3-4 months. Many, by the way, become disillusioned with specialized stores and go to ordinary chain stores: in the mass market there are many pleasant oversized models for which you do not have to pay millions.
Stories about other people’s births
Every experienced mother considers it her duty to tell a pregnant woman how she herself gave birth. Moreover, in all the details, and the more traumatic the experience was, the more details there will be – bright, colorful, with emotions or even with a tear. And hardly anyone will care that you do not want to listen to all this: why do you need other people’s horrors and negative attitude before childbirth? However, the only recipe here is to pretend that you are listening and think about your own. It is still impossible to stop the story of childbirth, and then I will want to share my experience myself.
Cheated expectations
It is said that a pregnant woman is the most beautiful. Only nursing can be more beautiful. Say, a woman waiting for a baby just glows from the inside. Tell me, are shiny forehead and cheeks considered a glow? Or maybe sparks of irritation at the slightest provocation will do? No, pregnancy is like the lottery. Someone only becomes more beautiful, while someone’s nose swells up due to edema, the skin sprinkles with blackheads, age spots come out. And the state is such that you just want to sleep, sleep, sleep … Well, except for lunch break.
What is not customary to talk about
We have already mentioned a delicate problem such as mild incontinence. And also hemorrhoids, itchy skin, toxicosis to the smell of your own husband – not for everyone, but it happens. Gynecologists can advise on health problems, but they will not say anything about your peace of mind. You generally turn into a walking incubator for everyone. As in bad advertising: what’s inside matters. But you are outside!
I am pregnant but not disabled!
Needless to say, it’s nice when you are treated like a crystal vase. But sometimes it’s overkill: it’s as if you were wrapped in cotton wool, put in a far corner and forgotten. Anyway, until you stop being pregnant. Nobody calls for gatherings, in cafes and concerts, in the cinema or just for a walk anymore. Of course, walking with a pregnant woman has its own specifics, but is this a reason for refusing to communicate with her? “Is it really possible for you? Wouldn’t it be bad? Can you get there? ” – overly caring questions make you feel like a helpless creature. But this is not so!