Typical traitors — what are they? 8 scientific facts

By and large, it does not matter what to call infidelity — sex on the side or kisses on the sly. Each couple has their own attitude to this, but betrayal remains betrayal.

Considering that adultery is not such a rarity, it would be nice to learn to identify those for whom treason is a matter of course, and understand why they do so. Here are eight signs, some of which may seem unexpected.

1. There are a lot of rock fans among the cheaters.

41% of those who allow themselves relationships on the side prefer rock to other directions. Other musical preferences are distributed as follows: pop music (16%), country (11%), classical (7%), rap and hip-hop (2%).

2. Female infidelity is much more serious.

It is not known who first started the rumor that men have infidelity in their blood, but it does not stand the test of reality: women are no less prone to it. Women’s infidelity is more often due to emotional need, while men’s infidelity is physiological. In the second case, there are more chances to save the union.

3. Many of them do not want to part with a permanent partner.

If someone is unfaithful, this does not mean that his relationship with the main partner is bursting at the seams: many are satisfied with the union and do not think about breaking up. So, according to a Rutgers University survey, 56% of men and 34% of women who have had romances on the side say they are happy with a regular partner.

4. Cheating awakens sexual appetite

According to sexologist Mary Jo Rapini, the sexual instinct can wake up due to infidelity, and then the attraction to the spouse will increase. This may be a sign that a third person has appeared on the horizon.

5. Women most often cheat during ovulation.

“Men show an increased interest in women who are at the peak of their menstrual cycle, that is, on the day of ovulation and a couple of days before it,” explains University of California researcher Marty Hazelton. This is due to nature: when the body is ready for conception, a woman feels the need for sex.

6. Men cheat to make their marriage stronger.

Marriage psychologist Susan Mandel claims that many loving husbands think that having an affair on the side will help them save their marriage. Thus, they are trying to escape from problems: it seems to them that a relationship with another woman will fill the void, and peace will reign in the family.

7. Most often, a passion is found among close friends.

Many console themselves with the thought that if the partner decides to “go left”, then most likely it will be limited to a light affair. But, as a rule, the object of secret passion becomes permanent and is somewhere nearby, for example, at work. In 85% these are colleagues, friends and neighbors.

8. Cheating people want to be «caught»

There is nothing surprising here: the need to comply with safety measures and feelings of guilt complicate life. Psychiatrist, professor at Brown University Scott Haltzman in the book “Secrets of Happy Husbands” writes: “… They seem to make it so that the partner guesses everything. Lipstick on the collar, a letter opened on the home computer — traces everywhere. Often this is a cry for help. Some act carelessly because they want to stop but don’t know how.»