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Sexual fantasies: that’s how they want, that’s how they want
Couple
While women more frequently experience intimate and romantic fantasies, they show a preference for exploratory activities or new sensations
Are we sincere when it comes to expressing our preferences in bed to our partner? And when it comes to sharing sexual fantasies? About 77% of the couples consulted claimed to have a sincere relationship about their sexual tastes and desires, according to data from a recent survey by Sexplace.es, which also reveals that, although men are the ones who pose the greatest variety of challenges to their couples, women are the ones who most go to specialized stores in search of games, toys or ideas to recreate in privacy.
It is true that when it comes to talking about sexual tastes and preferences there are all kinds of casuistry, almost as many as people, but there are some common notes when we talk about «Most common sexual fantasies in them» y «Most frequent sexual fantasies in them», as explained by the sexologist at Sexplace.es, Laura Hermoso.
Differences between them and them
The most common male sexual fantasies tend to be more exploratory, that is, related to activities such as group sex or the search for new sensations such as “having sex with several women at the same time”, “exchanging partners” or “participating in an orgy”. They are also interested, according to Laura Hermoso, role play, fetishism, anal sex and having sex with couples of different ages.
They especially like, according to the sexologist, intimate and romantic fantasies. Thus, they find the practice of sex attractive in Scenarios different (the hood of a car, the terrace of an attic, a jacuzzi, a changing room …), sex with a dominant (in the practice of BDSM), sex with a stranger or even random sex with a stranger and sexual practice in romantic places. They also find the option of exchanging partners attractive when it comes to fantasizing.
In addition, the sexologist explains that they focus much more on the details and they enjoy adding or decorating the scenes with specific things (what it smells like, what the place is like, what the lighting is like, what music is being listened to…) that they consider important. Men, on the contrary, are more direct and tell the act or the fact itself, but without so much detail.
When talking about the couple fantasies Consensus is not usually difficult, according to the expert, as fantasies can have links in common in which one and the other can give free rein to their desires. In this sense, the sexologist highlights the importance of communication and sharing, which is essential to address different tastes and preferences in sex. One point she makes is that, in general, they tend to give more than they do in the practice of fantasy.
What are you most concerned about in sex?
While men are concerned with issues such as the possibility of not measuring up in bed, achieving orgasm or being triggered, in the case of men it is more frequent that their concerns have to do with the fact that the partner does not want to use a condom, the possibility of contract diseases, that their body is not attractive or that they do not understand or do not know how to interpret a “no” as an answer.
They are concerned
- That the couple does not want to use a condom
- That the couple has a venereal disease
- That the condom breaks and there is an unwanted pregnancy
- That they think that their body is unattractive
- That a “no” is not understood as answers
- That the couple does not reach orgasm
- That they are bad in bed
They are concerned
- That the couple has a venereal disease
- That the couple does not reach orgasm
- Suffering from premature ejaculation
- That they think that their body is unattractive
- That it is not possible for them to carry out the sexual act
- That they are bad in bed
- That they think badly about the size of the penis
The risk of abusing “homemade porn”
One of the practices that can contribute to distorting sexual fantasies is the proliferation of sexual amateur videos on portals such as pornhub or similar ones. As the Sexplace expert explains, the easy access to these types of websites that offer thousands of homemade porn videos means that a large part of society can have access to them. erotic scenes of supposedly real couples apparently showing everyday sex. «What is seen as something everyday or habitual in these videos is not real at all. They are created to excite and therefore seek the fast consumption and it does not reflect the reality of a relationship. It creates a false reality about sexual relations ”, warns the sexologist, who highlights the fact that in these videos there is no reference to sexual intercourse.preliminary and neither is the real development of each phase of the intimate relationship seen in them. “That evolution and those steps are important in a sexual relationship,” he says.
The people who can be most affected by this type of videos, according to the sexologist Laura Hermoso, are young and inexperienced people, who can see in these videos some attitudes or behaviors that can distort their vision of what they really should be an intimate relationship.
FALSE MYTHS ABOUT SEX
- Size Matters? No, ability to penis size is preferred. The average length is 13 centimeters.
- Is anal sex spontaneous? No, it requires interest from both parties, preparation (lubrication), smoothness and practice.
- Does the number of relationships matter? Talking about previous sexual relations is no longer a taboo and it is a barrier that has been overcome.
- Is orgasm always the goal? Enjoyment is the goal. Heterosexual women have the fewest orgasms during partner sex, less than any other group: heterosexual men, gay men and lesbians.