Reliability of feelings

For most women, real feelings are reliable, not deceiving, stable feelings that can be trusted.

It is common for women to take care of safety, it is important for them to find something solid, reliable, on which they can rely, that will not slip out from under their feet, will always be strong and will not disappear — especially when it comes to a man’s feelings for a woman. If a man tells a woman about his feelings, but she does not understand what is behind his words, is it really a feeling or just words — it is difficult for her to believe a man. Even if a woman is convinced that the words of a man are not empty, that there is a feeling behind them, there is still reason for alarm.

Today he has feelings, he burns with them all, and tomorrow, when they wake up in the same bed, will his feelings be the same, will they disappear?

If a man’s feelings come and go, if a man himself is not sure of them, that is, he has them, then they don’t exist, for a woman this is unreliable, and in this case, no one will call a man’s feelings real feelings. And if life shows that a man’s feeling is stable, it does not disappear, it does not disappear, it is reliable, for a woman these are real feelings, because you can rely on them. Real feelings for a woman are those that a man cannot remove in relation to her, which will guide his behavior reliably.

The same is true for herself: many women are afraid of themselves, it is important for her to have confidence about herself that her feeling will not go away, will not disappear. See →

As a rule, such reliable feelings are more characteristic of mature, responsible people whose feelings are imbued with reason and are under its control↑. Another variant of reliable feelings is the feelings that arise in connection with the emergence of habits for a partner and with the development of attachment. But sincerity as a criterion for determining the reliability of feelings is a weak criterion.

Is it always possible to trust sincerely experienced feelings? — No, not always. On the other hand, are the feelings that are shown without experiencing always fake tricks? Not at all, well-mannered people can express adequate feelings to you without worrying about anything, simply by virtue of upbringing and caring for you, and it is quite possible to rely on their feelings↑.

False feelings are a trick, but sincere feelings are an unreliable guide. Sincere feelings, at best, only say that a person really feels something and really wants something. But wanting is one thing, doing is another. Whether a person will do what he absolutely sincerely wants now depends not on his feelings, but on what kind of person he is, whether he has a will, how honest he is internally, whether he knows how to keep his word and fulfill his own internal obligations .

The best and most reliable feeling is only a feeling, that is, initially not the most reliable thing, and in a good way needs at least an addition. How? Reason and will, the ability of a person to be responsible. Feelings themselves can never be a guarantor of any kind of reliability; only a reliable person can be a guarantor of reliability. If you have a decent and reliable person in front of you, do not analyze his feelings, believe his words. For many adults, their feelings are their choice, they can trigger and support their feelings arbitrarily, of their own free will, by their own decision↑. These are feelings made, but if these are the feelings of decent people, they are stable. You can rely on them, because a person who can be trusted is responsible for them.

He said that he would love for ten years — for ten years he would truly love. The feelings of such people are respected. These feelings are contrasted with impulsive, irresponsible feelings and emotions that themselves flare up and just as involuntarily disappear. Sincerely fell in love — sincerely fell out of love in a week …

If you, thinking about “real feelings”, want to have a reliable person nearby who you need to trust, then you need to look not at feelings, but at the person himself. If you understand people, you will understand. If you don’t know much yet, ask the opinion of smart and experienced people. Good personnel officers, strong leaders and experienced psychologists can tell a lot about a person just by looking at him.

Reliable, real feelings — a female theme

Reliable, real feelings are a female topic, for men this issue is much less relevant. For men, a slightly different approach is typical: they care less about stability than about the possibility of development. Men are more often not in defense, it is not important for them “I will stand, I will not fall”, it is important for them to move forward faster. The bike itself is very unstable, but if you accelerate it becomes very stable. For men, safety is not as important as good speed, which gives stability to development. Men need interesting feelings, promising feelings, lively feelings that will move him forward and with which something can be done.