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On the eve of the holidays, all problems are exacerbated: we especially feel loneliness and lack of strength, energy, money … The upcoming New Year is no exception. What caused such a state? How to support yourself and get into a festive mood?
The Origins of New Year’s Eve Anxiety
In the last month of the year, new experiences are added to our daily experiences. Of course, we continue to think about important meetings and burning deadlines, worry about the well-being of loved ones and get upset because of closed borders. But we also try to come up with gifts for relatives, plan the upcoming holiday and take stock.
In other words, we gradually sink into a state of anxiety due to the ongoing chaos. And it’s not just that. In December, social media feeds are full of posts of successful people who report on the changes that have taken place over the year. Bloggers, actors, models, entrepreneurs and even entire corporations are all talking about their income, dramatic changes in their careers and personal lives.
Watching other people’s victories exacerbate everyone’s pain, making us feel our own «inferiority» and «failure» — because we begin to compare our own results with others.
How to deal with this feeling
Perfectionism and achievement, which are so intensely broadcast by others, often worsen our mood and disturb our peace of mind. That is why it is so important to be able to help yourself.
Learn to ground yourself, feel the inner support. Stop and think about what is happening around you, what surrounds you. Analyze what is the reason for your poor health.
For example, we can be oppressed by the New Year’s fuss, as we feel our own loneliness and lack of attention.
It is important to look within yourself and figure out what unmet needs are masked under this feeling. If it is difficult to figure it out on your own, then you can seek psychological help. If someone else’s results of the year upset you, scroll through such reports or unsubscribe for a while from the people who publish them.
Life is not a competition, and you are not required to account for any results. You have your script. And the ability to perceive life as a single process is a feature that has many advantages in the modern world of achievers.
The illusion of well-being in social networks should not throw you off balance and push you to participate in the race. We live in a hurry, as if our only goal is not to live well, but quickly. Paying attention to your condition in time and slowing down the pace is not at all easy. It can take days and months to learn this skill, but it is important to see the end goal and take conscious steps towards it.
It is important not to compare yourself to others. Healthy motivation is our own desires. If we understand our values, then it is difficult to lead us astray.
Get in the Christmas spirit
This year has shown that we can overcome all difficulties. And yet, it’s time for us to relax a bit: stop self-flagellation, condemn, and blame ourselves, scold the past, our mistakes and thoughts. Replace condemnation and blame in your direction with love, support and responsibility to yourself.
You are the creator of your own life. You should not shift the responsibility for failures to a New Year’s miracle that did not happen, and continue to only dream about it. Realize your true desires and set an achievable goal. Develop a step-by-step plan, break it down into small tasks, and get started.
A new life does not start on Monday or New Year’s — but when you are ready for it. Same with dreams
You can find a festive mood by achieving moral balance. New Year’s attributes will also help: garlands, tangerines, holiday playlists and New Year’s movies. But if this is not for you, then allow yourself to celebrate the New Year in your own way — because there is no one right way for this.