Love as a lifestyle

When you are in love and just starting to communicate with your lover, any time together is devoted only to you two. It doesn’t matter where to go, what to do — he occupies all thoughts, and if you’re lucky, it’s mutual. You are interested in his hobbies, and hurry to share what you like.

After a while, everyday life begins to prevail: friction and dissatisfaction with each other arise. Gradually, the image of a loved one becomes not as beautiful and romantic as at first. And it’s getting harder and harder to ignore it. If you could save … No, not just save, but develop and increase this first bright love, do you think life would be more fulfilling and happy? I’m sure yes!

People who are in love are much more attractive to others than dissatisfied people. They notice more good not only in the beloved, but also in the world as a whole. Lovers knee-deep sea — they do not notice the obstacles. Therefore, I offer some simple exercises to develop the skill of falling in love. Try it and I think you’ll like it.

Respond

Happy strong couples differ from all others in that they respond to each other more often than others. Imagine the situation: you are busy with something important — cooking dinner, reading a book, chatting with friends. And he looks out the window.

“Look, what a beautiful bird,” he says. Will you break away from your occupation, do you want to share this moment with him? There are many important things in this.

If you want to strengthen the state of being in love, you need to learn to respond more often yourself and respectfully seek a more frequent response from your partner. It’s not about interfering with each other’s life, work or watching football — «who is more important to you, these 11 men running around the field or me?».

When you try to draw his attention to something, and he is tired and absentmindedly misses the words, help him respond. Give him another chance to get used to reacting to you. And, of course, train to respond to his offers of communication.

get infected

I have a friend who is always in love — not necessarily with the same man, but it doesn’t matter. She radiates such a vivid state of love that it is difficult for them not to get infected. Each of us needs such a girlfriend so that we can “emerge” from our state and look at the world through her eyes. This does not mean that you will become exactly the same as her, but by changing your look, you will make many discoveries in your own relationships.

Manage love

In Disney films, there is always a romantic warm light that makes the picture naive and fabulous. In documentaries, on the contrary, the light is usually colder, so they are easy to recognize — when viewed, there is a feeling of authenticity.

So we, falling in love, see the world in a «pink haze» — we form a romantic image of a lover. And later we get carried away with realism and take “passport photos”, which, of course, do not excite. It soon turns into a bad habit that literally makes the relationship dimmer. How to fix it? With a simple exercise.

First, take a mental journey into the past. Forget about the years of living together and plunge into the brightest period of your relationship with feelings. Give it a few minutes, let the feelings come alive in the body.

Remember how you imagined this man when you thought about him. In what situations did this happen? Where did you place that picture relative to yourself? What size is it? What kind of lighting is there?

Now think about how you imagine your man now. Where do you place the picture, what size is it, how is it lit, what clothes does it wear, what is its facial expression? Note the difference between these two ways of thinking about a loved one.

Create a new mental image of a loved one from the present. Put it where you put it before. Make it the right size, change the lighting. Draw it the way you drew it during a period of passionate love. Just make the picture bigger now.

If you give this exercise a few minutes, you will find yourself falling in love with your man again. At first, this feeling may seem ephemeral and elusive, but it means that you need a little more practice. Remember how many hours a day you devoted to thinking about your loved one when you first started dating him — you trained yourself to love and desire him.

Set multiple reminder alarms on your smartphone and practice doing it over and over again. And literally in a week or two weeks… everything will change!