Millions of women behave in bed like real actresses — feign and turn sex into a theatrical production. Why do they do it and in what movies do you find inspiration for real pleasure?
In the 80s cult film When Harry Met Sally, there is a scene that clearly reveals female artistry. The main character depicts an orgasm right in the cafe. By this, she, as it were, proves to her friend that all his sexual exploits are a fake. In real relationships, women quite often pretend to imitate pleasure. What for? And in what films can you, on the contrary, see not acting, but real sex?
Movies with real sex scenes
- Caligula. The bloodthirsty and cruel ruler appears as an erotic gourmet who relishes sex. Directed by Tinto Brass, Giancarlo Lui and Bob Guccione, it was a movie masterpiece thanks to the acting of the main characters and brilliant erotic scenes.
- «Their first night.» A sensual drama about a man and a woman who found each other in a noisy club and decided not to part. Sex, love, knowledge of the body intertwined in one crazy sensual night.
- «irreversibility». Crime drama with powerful erotic scenes: a difficult story of two newlyweds who loved each other, but had wayward characters. For reference: Monica Belucci’s rape scene is an imitation. But there are other sex moments in the movie that were 100% real.
- «Nymphomaniac». Erotic experiences of a young woman who cannot live without sex. The film is replete with various intimate practices, unretouched bodies and juicy orgasms.
Even actors are able to have real orgasms right on the set. Why don’t you follow their example?
Why do women fake orgasm?
“You are a woman, which means you are an actress,” the poets repeat. Some ladies take it literally and unleash their creativity in bed. Fake moans, screams, eye rolls are just a rehearsed number for them, not an orgasm. Women have been pretending for years, but why?
- They are afraid to speak the truth. They are embarrassed to tell their partner that they cannot reach the finish line. If the relationship lasts for a long time, women «sit down» to the simulation and get used to living without orgasms. They are sure that the partner will get angry when he finds out the truth, accuse him of frigidity, start cheating or leave.
- They want their partner to finish faster. They are tired, their libido is at zero and the whole process of sex turns into a boring torture.
- They don’t know their body. Many of them are sure that the only allowed type of orgasm is an orgasm from sex with penetration. Women are embarrassed to stimulate the head of the clitoris and do not help their body to enjoy sex. They do not know where their erogenous zones are, and they do not know how to please themselves in bed.
- They think they don’t deserve the pleasure of sex. They were taught that female orgasms are secondary and that the only role a woman can play in sex is that of satisfying another partner.
The worst thing is that such stimulation can become endless. By pretending, you inadvertently tower over a man. He feels like a hero who does everything right and brings his woman to unrealistic emotions. And you silently laugh at him: “I can’t even get an orgasm with you!” You see a weak, clumsy man, and you don’t want a weak man at all. It turns out a vicious circle.
Over time, simulation can cause major conflict and even destroy your relationship. If a man has regular orgasms and you don’t, you may become irritated with your partner and with sex in general. Libido is finally reduced, I don’t want sex at all. Indeed: why do something that does not bring pleasure?
Another reason why women feign in bed is porn movies.
Most men’s sex education comes down to watching these videos. They come to sex with perverted attitudes: they expect, for example, that a woman will be excited in a matter of seconds only at the sight of a naked male body, and she will receive orgasms from just a few hard frictions. But this is not true!
But not every woman has the courage to bust porn myths. More often they begin to look for a problem in themselves: it is easier for them to pretend than to go against the “system”. So they fall into that very vicious circle of pretense, from which you can get out only by taking responsibility for your pleasure. Also, new knowledge about sex will be a good help in this.
I am for honesty and for finding the courage to enter into a dialogue with yourself and with your partner, to study your body, to take responsibility for your pleasure. For you to stop waiting for the Oscar in bed and start having real pleasure. And you can start by watching the right films for adults — with real sex without simulation.