Among the foreplay, masturbation, cunnilingus or oral sex are classics. What about erotic spanking? Often fantasized, rarely daring, this gesture bordering on violence is the subject of much debate. Humiliating or exciting? Source of pleasure or pain? Zoom on spanking during sex.

The Kamasutra, the Marquis de Sade and even French authors can no longer be mentioned in literature, the spanking is a preliminary taboo, bold and very exciting.

Does spanking turn a man or a woman on?

While spanking during sex fuels many fantasies, it can be completely unacceptable for some lovers. To be able to express its exciting virtues, erotic spanking must be used in the right context: insofar as it by nature imposes a dominant – dominated relationship, the gesture must respect the balance of power established in the couple in their daily life. Otherwise, the slap on the buttocks may be perceived as ridiculous because inappropriate. If the woman likes to dominate, she is the one who will spank her lover. Conversely, the woman who wishes to be dominated will be the victim of erotic spanking. In any case, it is difficult to say that spanking excites women more than men: it all depends on the respective characters of the members of the couple and their propensity to be aroused by a relationship of domination. Anyway, to stimulate desire and induce sexual intercourse, erotic spanking must be exciting for both the giver and the recipient.

Spanking during the act or as a preliminary?

Erotic spanking can be used as a foreplay, to build up desire. In this context, it can even lead to pleasure: the buttocks are an erogenous zone for many, and their stimulation in the right conditions is a source of physical enjoyment. But as a general rule, it is customary to have recourse to spanking during sex: it is often when the lover takes his partner doggy style that the occasion lends itself to give an erotic spanking intended to express pleasure. for the one who gives it, to multiply the orgasm for the one who receives it.

Spanking during sex: bordering on sadomasochism

A form of domination that is soft but exciting in its own right, spanking can be considered as a first step towards SM practices. Connected forbidden, the gesture is all the more exciting. When lovers are not ready to try their hand at a form of intense debauchery, erotic spanking is an effective alternative. 

Because it borders on sadomasochism, because it is taboo or because it is a new experience for lovers, erotic spanking is a way to spice up one’s sexuality as a couple. And insofar as it is not given with excessive and unwanted violence, it represents a risk-free practice – at worst the lover who takes the initiative risks being ridiculed.

Several rules allow you to spank without risking a breakup in the couple. First of all, it is important to choose the right time. This gesture is part of a context of brutal and bestial sex rather than a romantic atmosphere: no need to install candles to prepare the other for the erotic spanking, the quickie on the other hand lends itself more to it. Should we or should we not warn our partner upstream? It all depends on the level of daring of the lovers. Then, it is important to measure your gesture well: a first time can not give rise to a violent erotic spanking, at the risk of hurting the other. On the other hand, if the couple takes pleasure in spanking during sex, they can go crescendo for ever more enjoyment. Last rule: stop at the right time, so as not to make erotic spanking a failed and inhibiting experience.