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Are you anxious? Say it
Talk to your baby about your anxiety without dramatizing: “It feels weird to leave you at aunties / nursery. But I trust I know you’re gonna be fine with her. »Do not pretend to be light-hearted: your child has antennae, the discrepancy between your words and your emotional state would disturb him.
Baby is upset? It’s normal
Does he have restless nights, does he eat less well? Do not panic ! These are temporary disturbances, which accompany his change of life. Everything will quickly return to order. But if after two weeks these troubles get worse instead of disappearing, if the baby sleeps badly, cries in the morning or vomits, question the nanny or her referent at the nursery: there may be a problem.
Is the day long? Avoid the phone
Every morning, exchange a few words with the nanny, give her the “weather” of your child. In the evening, she will do the same. If baby feels like you’re connected, it makes him feel secure. Except on the first day, avoid calling to inquire about him.
A little problem? We are talking about it
Does a detail bother you? Just talk about it. These small adjustments are necessary to keep a healthy relationship. “If you feel uncomfortable, but don’t dare talk about it, call on RAM (Relais d’Assistantes maternelles), advises Anne Bacus: it will help you broach the subject.
before things turn sour. “
Baby prefers his nanny? Impossible !
Does he cry when you pick him up when he’s been cool all day? This is normal: with his nanny, he has held back, but as soon as you hug, he gives free rein to his fatigue and his emotion. Baby is wiser and easier with her, because there are far fewer emotional issues. He becomes attached to his nanny, but he will never confuse her with his mom!