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Hello, dear readers of Valery Kharlamov’s blog! To achieve what you want, to advance, both in your career and in your personal life, a person must leave the comfort zone, act and develop. Therefore, in order to simplify this process, and in general, to make it possible, it is important that work on oneself never stop, that is, be permanent.
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1. Don’t stop
As you take a step forward towards change, try not to stop. After all, it is easier to move by inertia than to gather courage and try to move. It is especially difficult if you have spent a lot of time on it, in which case you will feel that you have “grown” to it. And this causes such a strong fear of change that it will be easier to endure something than to take a risk and do it differently.
It is for this reason that many victims of domestic violence do not leave their tyrants. But, if they begin to take care of themselves, knowing and realizing, then the moment will come when internal changes will occur, and entail external ones.
2. Motivation
As we have already found out, human psychology is such that it is easier for him to sit still, albeit not comfortable, than to get up, fall, get up again, and so on. To move, you need good motivation, then you will not have time to think about how to force yourself to act.
Do you know what you want to achieve, what you live for? If you haven’t figured it out yet, check out this article.
3. A responsibility
Realize that the responsibility for your life and its quality lies only with you, therefore everything that happens to you is a consequence of your choices and actions. Therefore, if you don’t know where to start working on yourself, assign yourself an iron rule, rely only on yourself and always be responsible for your actions, even if you really don’t want to.
I do not urge you to refuse support and help, but I just want to convey to you that you should not expect it as a matter of course. Someone may or may not help you, so always rely only on your own strength.
Just when you stop sitting and waiting for miracles, that someone will notice you so good and give you a bag of money, you will have a chance to earn it yourself, turning your dream into reality.
4. Health
In order to realize that you are not perfect in some ways, and in some nuances you do not even reach the norm, you need to be brave and strong in spirit. It is also important to understand that if you give your all, you can achieve almost everything you want and cope with any difficulty.
Therefore, instead of being upset that you are not up to something, gather your will into a fist and get to work. Yes, it will be difficult, sometimes it will seem to be fruitless and useless, but believe me, your work will be justified and will bear fruit.
5. Planning
Plan your activities, so it will be easier to understand when and what to do. Yes, and there will be less temptation to relax, because every day will be scheduled, even rest. If you don’t know how it’s done, and you’re used to living without setting clear goals, everything can be fixed.
Use the recommendations from the article «How to make a plan for every day: 12 fundamental tips.»
6. Balance in life
So, let’s say you tune in and realize the whole level of responsibility, and what’s next? And then you should determine which area in your life needs attention and correction. A technique such as drawing up a wheel of life balance will help you with this.
Then you will know exactly what and by what percentage you have missed, personal life, health, professional activity or leisure. Or maybe the spiritual component of your personality has suffered a little?
To better understand what I am now trying to explain to you, see the detailed description and instructions in the article about the wheel of the balance of life.
7. Reading
Read at every opportunity. So you can not only replenish your stock of knowledge, but you will also unwittingly train your memory, thinking and attention. And I recommend starting with books on the topic of self-development.
For example, such as «Get Out of Your Comfort Zone» by Brian Tracy, by the way, is a bestseller and a leader among books on this subject. Or “This year I…” M. Ryan, which will help to cope with bad habits and teach you to keep promises, even those addressed to yourself.
You can look at this list of books, there are 15 books on the topic of self-development and personal growth.
8. Health
By the way, how to change yourself if there are bad habits? And let it not be alcohol addiction, the abuse of products that are harmful to our body also belong to this topic.
Self-discipline and keeping boundaries is an incredibly important factor, without which success cannot be achieved, especially when there is a need to change habitual styles of behavior and character components. It is important to achieve harmony, taking care of both physical and psychological health.
So, if you know that in some way you are “sinful” in front of yourself, that you are harming your well-being, be sure to start implementing the recommendations indicated in the article “How to start a healthy lifestyle at 30: TOP 10 fundamental rules”.
9. Phased
Constant work on yourself is possible only if it is gradual, otherwise, by giving yourself an increased load that does not correspond to your capabilities, you can leave the race halfway without having time to achieve the desired changes. Therefore, be sure to consider this moment, it will allow you to notice reality, and not be fascinated by fantasies.
Let’s say you want to lose weight — plan activities to combat hated kilograms so that the body does not experience stress from unexpected unbearable changes. Take care of yourself.
Conclusion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! Inner work on yourself is actually a colossal work, so I wish you success in this process, and inspiration! And in order to check how developed your abilities for self-organization and self-control are, I suggest taking an online test “On the level of awareness and desire for self-development”.