Sometimes, well, it is very difficult to restrain yourself and not give out your beloved child in the priest. After all, children are masters of provocation. They are ready to test our boundaries for strength, until we boil and gurgle. However, you must somehow magically control yourself, not allowing these same hands to land on a soft spot.
Psychologists and educators have been saying for a long time: you cannot beat children. No, you can never, under any circumstances. Yes, in the short term, this is effective: slapping the baby – and he instantly revised his behavior. But studies conducted by the American Academy of Pediatrics have shown that in the future, beaten children are much more likely to have aggressive and defiant behaviors, suicidal tendencies, abuse of illegal substances and even changes in the brain – the volume of gray matter becomes less! Researchers attribute this to the fact that physical punishment, especially regular flogging, leads to increased production of stress hormones in children.
Moreover, yelling at children is also not recommended. Threats, insults, humiliation, when parents constantly shame a child, lead to the same consequences, plus behavior problems in adolescence and depression. After all, the stress from psychological violence is no less than from physical.
“We need to find healthy ways to nurture discipline,” the scientists say. – Many children grow up to be quite happy and healthy adults, even in spite of the beatings. But is it worth the risk? “
By the way, a third of Russian parents are in favor of corporal punishment of children. It seems like it’s time to reconsider your methods.