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It turned out that a woman in a position sometimes even scares. Although men are not ready to admit it.
In my 30th week of pregnancy, I was sitting in the kitchen in a short top and suddenly caught my husband’s frightened gaze on my stomach.
“Well?” – I could not resist.
“Your navel! How terribly he sticks out! Looks like a peephole. It’s like a child is watching me ”- this is such an unexpected answer from a mentally healthy (I hope) husband.
It turned out that the “creepy navel” is not the only thing that scares men in pregnant women. After rereading numerous reviews, and sometimes frank complaints, I have collected the most common fears that men have in relation to their pot-bellied halves.
Perhaps the main male fear, which many women take personally, and in vain! In fact, men are simply very afraid of harming their unborn child.
“I was really put off by the idea of sex. I could not accept the fact that there was a baby THERE. I love my wife very much and I find her attractive, but her pregnancy has become a huge psychological barrier, ”writes Alexander.
“How the stomach began to appear, that’s it, stupor,” complains about his wife Julia. – He looks at his stomach, as at something crystal, unearthly, he is even afraid to touch ”.
If you want intimacy, and your husband pretends to be “unwilling”, talk to him frankly, maybe even take him to your gynecologist. Let him hear the authoritative opinion of the doctor and calm down. Well, a seductive underwear that covers your stomach will help distract you from stupid thoughts.
2. Toxicosis
What kind of intimacy is there when the first thing in the morning a woman runs to the toilet. Someone, of course, and this will not repel. But there are also particularly squeamish guys.
“During the first four months, my wife vomited constantly, to the point that we needed a bucket in every room of the house she was in. There is no time for sex. I was just grateful that she was alive. Every time she vomited, I was there, holding her hair. During that difficult period, she did not evoke the thought of sex at all, no hint of sexuality. And these difficult memories haunted me for several months after giving birth. “
3. Stormy emotions
Yes, hormones are naughty. In addition, if the pregnancy is the first or very long-awaited, expectant mothers are afraid of everything and often break down on their husbands.
And also this terrible self-doubt: quite recently I was a beauty, a strong, independent woman, but today the figure has blurred, my legs are swollen, acne has gotten, you walk like a duck, you can’t even tie your shoelaces. And now the most harmless joke is perceived as an insult. And a compliment to another woman is a suspicion of treason.
“My wife with pregnancy is kind of nervous, this is not allowed, then it is impossible.”
“She got so aggressive. Reacts to any jokes very sharply. She also cries constantly. If you make a small comment, you will immediately have tears in your eyes. “
“Mine suddenly began to arrange interrogations. I’ll stay a little late at work, immediately calls, indignations: “Where are you?”, “Who are you with?” Once I entered the room, and she was checking my phone. This has never happened before. “
“These hormones made her crazy. Now that it’s all over, I am happy that the woman I fell in love with has returned to me. “
4. Increased exactingness
It does not happen to everyone, but it does happen. Some men admit that during pregnancy, their loved ones turn into real tyrants, and they themselves turn into servants. Say, I carry your child, so be kind, serve me and indulge all my whims.
“I was just shocked when my wife, upon learning about pregnancy, just crawled on my neck,” says Ruslan. “Sometimes I didn’t understand what she wanted. But I endured and put up with it. “
“I watch TV in the evening, she asks to go to the store for seeds. Drop everything and rush after them. I’m afraid, then I won’t see the white light at all, ”Vitaly is indignant.
5. Physiological details of pregnancy and childbirth
Even the most loving man is unlikely to want to listen to what was so terrible in the smear and how your cervix feels today. On the other hand, with whom else to share, if not with the closest person. But if the man is still ready to listen to the news from the doctor, then horror stories from women’s forums about terrible childbirth with bleeding and other serious consequences do not need to be told exactly, and you should not read it yourself. Have pity on your spouse – he is already scared.
6. Intrusive conversations
Once upon a time a woman had a busy life, interesting work, and a lot of impressions. But at 7 months of pregnancy, she goes on maternity leave, and now every day is like the previous one, nothing new. And there’s no one to talk to. Everyone has their own interests and concerns. An acute lack of communication appears, which the husband has to disentangle: listen to long stories about boorish cashiers from the supermarket, retellings of serials and talk shows. Someday this will pass, but for now you will have to accept and listen patiently.
7. New wardrobe
Before pregnancy, a woman can afford stiletto heels and short skirts. And now it’s all terribly inconvenient, and in the case of heels, it’s also unsafe. Well, what short skirts, if you already have not shaved your legs properly? And where should I dress up now?
Men hope that at least after giving birth, the former sexy beauty will return to them, but no, with the advent of a child, rarely anyone gets back on their heels. A woman now simply does not need it.
“Before pregnancy, I did not know what a shoe without a heel was. And now heels with a child are not very comfortable. And my husband wants to see me in that pre-pregnant state. “
8. Appearance
Most men on the forums do not dare to criticize the figures of their pregnant wives. Moreover, many assure (hopefully, sincerely) that a woman in a position becomes even more beautiful. But there are also those who are still ashamed of the appearance of their spouse.
“When I was five months old, I was offered to work out the press,” – Alex writes in all seriousness.
“In both pregnancies I have very big bellies, I walk like a duck, shortness of breath, I don’t understand what I’m dressed. During this period, my husband does not like me. Lives only at the moment when I give birth. In the first pregnancy, when I arrived at the hospital, I immediately asked: “Have you lost weight?” Denise complains.
“A pregnant woman looks amazing, but not for sex, but to paint a picture,” concluded Yegor.
9. Fear to jinx
Many women admit that their husbands took the news of pregnancy rather coldly. Photo ultrasound, the latest news from the gynecologist also did not cause much emotion. It seems that the prospect of becoming fathers does not please them at all. However, after giving birth, everything changes, and now these are the most loving dads.
It turned out that many men are simply afraid to rejoice ahead of time.
“My husband said: if you give birth, then we will rejoice. He began to show emotions closer to childbirth, after the third ultrasound, when they said that everything was fine with the baby. “
“My father-in-law was afraid to see a photo from an ultrasound scan – he thought he would jinx it.”
10. Fear of old age
When the wife is pregnant, the man begins to realize that his life will never be the same. For many, this is a pleasant change. However, there are those who have a hard time tolerating their new status – that of a father. Say, youth has passed. Now you are not living for yourself, but for another person. Therefore, no clubs and partying with friends until the morning – not everyone is ready for such changes.
11. Uncertainty about the future
It used to be possible to maintain a separate budget and not deny yourself anything. Now the man becomes the main breadwinner in the house, despite the fact that the costs in a young family are rising sharply. “Will I be able to? What if I get fired? What if something happens to me? ” – such fears haunt many future fathers. They suddenly move away, withdraw into themselves, and women, not knowing the true reason, take everything at their own expense.