Hello, dear readers of Valery Kharlamov’s blog! An optimist is a person who sees the world around him in a rainbow color, he focuses on the possibilities, without wasting time thinking about the limitations, therefore, moving after a dream, he feels happy and in his place. And the prospects for being realized are much greater than those of the pessimists. Although, as in principle and everywhere, there are pitfalls that create unnecessary problems. Today we will take a closer look at what they are.
Pros
1. How to become healthier? It is necessary to rejoice more often, do what you like and allow yourself to enjoy life, ceasing to severely limit yourself. This is the opinion scientists from Harvard came to. They conducted studies, as a result of which it was revealed that pessimists are more likely to suffer from cardiovascular diseases, they have kidney problems, and are several times more likely to “catch” an infection. So I think this is a very significant plus in favor of thinking positively.
2. Achieve more and more success and their goals. A pessimist, faced with a difficulty, will stop and will comprehend and live it for a long time. The cheerleader, thinking “well, it didn’t work out this time, it will come out another”, will move on, forgetting about failure and concentrating on desire. And, as far as we know, it is such individuals who own the world. If Donald Trump had given up after the first case of bankruptcy, he would not be a billionaire and the president of the United States at the moment. You can read more about all its ups and downs in this article.
3. Relies more on himself, rather than the weather, external conditions and other people. He does not have low self-esteem, which is why he believes in himself and his strengths, knows the advantages and limitations. In connection with this, he understands where he can show himself in all his glory, and where it is better to practice.
4. A lot of energy, but because it does not limit itself and does not stop with all sorts of prejudices, prejudices and fears. He follows his desire, which is why he is active, interesting and happy.
5. A large circle of acquaintances, and this is sometimes very useful, it is important to have connections in all industries. There is even such a direction as networking, it is taught at trainings, courses and other seminars. In a cheerful person with positive thinking, the creation of useful connections occurs by itself, unconsciously. Psychologist’s advice on how best to form these connections is described in detail in the article at the link.
Cons
Health
1. Depression. Due to the fact that optimists are distinguished by excessive demands, and sometimes even unrealistic ones, in case of failure or not achieving the desired, they may well even become depressed due to the intensity of negative feelings that have arisen in connection with this. Everything seems so simple, easy and accessible, so they can fantasize a bunch of things, and then live through colossal stress.
Faced with reality, there is a need to recognize one’s powerlessness and omnipotence. Not everyone is capable of this, at least not without damaging self-esteem.
2. The gullibility and naivety that distinguish such cheerful people can play a cruel joke. For example, they believe in healers, refusing to visit specialists, but because they promised to cure in a couple of sessions, and modern medicine does not give much chance for recovery, and the treatment process can be painful, lengthy and expensive. Why they start the disease to the stage when really nothing can be done about it.
For example, Steve Jobs died precisely due to the fact that, refusing radical methods, he preferred a diet and visiting spiritualists, when diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. If he had initially performed the operation, perhaps he would still delight the world with the creation of new technologies.
Side effects of optimism
1. Disappointment always follows charm. That is, when a new acquaintance seems to us ideal and the best that the world has ever seen, be sure that the moment will come when this charm will begin to subside. We will begin to notice a very real person who can really turn out to be good, just without exaggeration and denial of the negative aspects.
Due to the fact that it is not so easy to say goodbye to the created image, anger arises that the person did not live up to expectations, although, in fact, he had nothing to do with it. And an optimist at its core is an incorrigible cheerful and sometimes irresponsible person. He prefers to idealize others, which is why he often falls into his own trap, not knowing the other well, unconditionally starting to trust him.
2. Envy. There is a stereotype that happy people are doing well, they are healthy, successful, loved, and that’s why they are happy. But in fact, this is not so, they are just able to notice the good, focus on it and let go of troubles without obsessing over them. And this can sometimes play a cruel joke, as colleagues, neighbors and other people, envious, will want to spoil happiness.
And we remember that life-lovers have problems with distrust, suspicion, which is why among acquaintances there may be not the most friendly and nice personalities.
3. Windiness and ease of attitude to problems can only aggravate them. Having decided that somehow it will be solved and resolved, he will switch to other concerns, while pressing small problems will grow and turn into quite serious troubles. Suppose, on impulses of good mood, you can get a loan, not at all calculating whether it will pay off, and then fall into a debt hole, denying yourself everything.
What can you do to become more positive?
If you know you are pessimistic, or have passed the test and found out, and now want to change a little, you can start with the following recommendations:
1. You have one life, the moment has come when you need to think carefully about what you like and what you want. It is only important to make sure that you, having discovered a desire, do not begin to devalue it. For example, you always wanted to draw, but you don’t know how, and if you go to study, it’s unlikely to work out, there’s no time, no money for classes, and there’s no point either … Do you recognize yourself? It may or may not make sense, but pleasure, if you stop slowing down your impulses, is guaranteed.
2. In case of temporary blues and skepticism, if you know yourself completely different, or at least you were once different, but changed dramatically against the background of trauma and other troubles, read the article here until negativism has become one of the components your personality.
3. Method «Tick-Tock». It is necessary to distinguish two components of your personality. Calling one “Tick”, which will be responsible for negative thoughts, and the other “So”, respectively, for positive ones. So, take a piece of paper and write down the whole dialogue. Tick will talk about your usual skeptical views on life, and Tuck will try to turn them into perspectives and opportunities. You can play with friends or relatives, just choose opposite roles, so it will be more resourceful for both sides.
4. Do you think it is possible to become a cheerful optimist with low self-esteem? I doubt it, otherwise how can you believe in success, while not believing in yourself? So, be sure to use the recommendations from the article about self-confidence.
5. Have a yes day. That is, answer almost every sensible proposal with consent. For example, have you been invited to the cinema or to joint gatherings more than once, but you did not see the point in wasting time in the company of people who are not quite close? Or the boss offered to take on a new project, but you were afraid, so you refused? It’s time to change! Do you agree?
Conclusion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! Be in the company of cheerful people, make a map of desires, go on a trip and be happy! Otherwise, who, if not you, will make your life interesting and eventful, full of pleasures and joys?