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General description of the disease
This is an uncontrolled contraction of the muscles of the pelvic floor and vagina of a convulsive-reflex nature, which occurs when any attempt is made to insert a penis, a tampon, or a gynecological speculum into the vagina. Such a reduction is accompanied by painful sensations, complicates a gynecological examination and adds a lot of trouble in a woman’s sexual life. About 3% of women suffer from vaginismus. This disease can occur both in young girls who have no sexual experience, and in women who previously had successful, full-fledged sexual relationships, from which they received pleasure and pleasure.
Causes of vaginismus
The causes of vaginismus can be divided into 2 categories. Such a subdivision is derived on the basis of 2 types of vaginismus. It can be true and false.
The cause of the development of false vaginismus there is a physiological aspect – diseases of the vagina of an inflammatory nature (for example: colpitis, vulvitis or cervicitis), dense, non-elastic hymen, constantly dry entrance to the vagina (lack of lubrication), cracks, wounds and abrasions on the genitals, gynecological operations carried out in childhood.
True vaginismus develops against the background of psychological disorders of a woman.
In young girls, vaginismus most often occurs due to improper sex education. When adults suggest that sex is something sinful, animal and shameful. In addition, virgin girls may be afraid of the first intercourse because of the stories of girlfriends or by reading on the Internet about the painful sensations during the first intercourse.
Women who have previously had sexual intercourse may develop a fear of sex due to the rude and selfish behavior of a sex partner, or a previous sexual assault, attempted rape, or previous sexual assault. After such behavior, a woman develops a reflex as a defense, which helps with the help of contracted muscles in preventing the penetration of the penis or other objects. Sometimes the muscles can contract even only by touching the outer labia.
Vaginismus can also begin against the background of everyday problems. For example, a woman does not want her husband because she does not see him as a breadwinner or knows about his infidelities. Vaginismus can occur due to the presence of a third person next to partners.
Often, women with vaginismus have different phobias and fears: heights, darkness, pain, water.
Girls who are aggressively opposed to the male sex and who believe that intimacy is a momentary weakness and submission to a man can also suffer from vaginismus. The second argument comes from strong, powerful women.
Vaginismus can provoke childbirth or the resulting trauma during them (a woman is afraid of becoming pregnant again after experiencing severe pain and, at a subconscious level, does not let her man in for the sake of her safety and to prevent a future “threat”).
Degrees of vaginismus
Depending on the woman’s reaction to touching, examinations by the gynecologist and the introduction of the penis, there are 3 degrees of vaginismus.
- 1 In the first degree, the contraction of the pelvic floor muscles occurs during an attempt to insert a speculum or penis.
- 2 In the second degree, the vaginal muscles begin to react when the woman’s labia is touched or even while waiting for possible touch.
- 3 In the third degree, the muscles begin to contract only with one thought about intercourse or about seeing a gynecologist.
Forms and types of vaginismus
Depending on the time when vaginismus developed, its varieties are distinguished. If the girl has not had sexual intercourse, then she has primary vaginismus. If a woman before the development of the disease lived a normal sex life, she has secondary vaginismus.
Diagnosis “primary vaginismus»Placed in cases where the girl did not have any sexual relations due to the fact that the external opening of the vagina was closed, due to which the partner could not insert his penis or its introduction is very difficult (while the partner is experiencing severe pain and burning). If you do not pay attention to this, then the marriage can become virgil (virginal), while both spouses will be extremely nervous and irritable. With this type of vaginismus, difficulties most often arise at the reception of the gynecologist and with the introduction of a tampon.
The muscles not in the pelvic floor may contract, but any other muscles, or even breathing may stop when trying to insert something into the vagina. After these attempts are stopped, all muscles become relaxed, and breathing is normalized. On such grounds, it is more difficult for a gynecologist to determine vaginismus if the girl herself is silent about this fact.
Secondary vaginismus can develop at any time due to any pathological changes in the woman’s body (menopause, painful childbirth), against the background of unsuccessful or unpleasant communication in a group of people or with her man on the topic of intimacy, due to the presence of negative memories of sex during the time of the woman’s illness with infectious diseases (candidiasis, genitourinary infections), due to the presence of hemorrhoids, cracks in the anal canal or undergoing surgery after which sex became painful. The woman’s body involuntarily remembers those negative moments in the subconscious and in order to protect her from bad experiences and experiences, the brain sends an impulse, the muscles begin to contract and not let the penis or tampon go. Therefore, the disease can be defeated, the body recovered after surgery or childbirth, but this defense reflex remained. Secondary vaginismus is also called pseudo vaginismus, when a woman’s body remembers pain sensations more than pleasant sensations.
The main forms of vaginismus
Sexologists identify 4 main forms of vaginismus, which directly depend on the causes of this problem.
- The easiest to heal and a favorable form with the flow is considered initial vaginismus… Muscle spasm is observed only at the very beginning of intimacy and with the correct, namely gentle, caring behavior of the partner, all signs disappear.
- Then goes climacteric vaginismus, which can develop in women of Balzac age due to the physiological characteristics of the body with age. Such vaginismus develops due to a small amount of lubricant secreted and possible changes in the atrophic nature of the vaginal mucosa. By the way, climacteric vaginismus also develops in women prone to neurasthenia.
- The next form of vaginismus is observed in individuals of the weaker sex, who have vaginismus of the 2nd and 3rd degree. This is the form selective vaginismus… Muscle contractions accompanied by painful sensations occur in some separate situations. This form is inherent in women suffering from hysteria.
- The latter form of vaginismus occurs only in overly suspicious, anxious and cowardly girls who are afraid to commit coitus. They have observed phobic vaginismus.
Symptoms of vaginismus
The main symptoms are the presence of tension, tingling in the perineal region, pain during intercourse, examination by a gynecologist, or the complete absence of the possibility of introducing instruments or a man’s penis. Problems with inserting tampons on critical days, avoiding sex, and incomplete intercourse can also indicate the presence of vaginismus.
In addition to narrowing the vaginal passage, the muscles of the legs, thighs, back can convulsively contract, breathing can seem to stop when trying to have sex.
It is worth noting that most women and girls with vaginismus tend to have normal arousal. It happens quite easily, the vagina is well moisturized, as a response to petting. Foreplay is often even pleasant to such female individuals. As for the achievement of orgasm, this function is preserved in vaginismus.
Healthy foods for vaginismus
To regulate female hormones in the body and balance the nervous system, a woman needs to eat foods containing magnesium (walnuts, pine nuts, cashews, almonds, hazelnuts, peanuts, buckwheat, oatmeal, barley, millet porridge, legumes), calcium (fermented milk products, mustard, garlic, nuts), B vitamins (corn, liver, lentils, pasta, pork, mushrooms, chicken eggs, processed cheese, white cabbage, sprouted rice, oranges, pomegranates, grapefruits, peaches and fresh juices from them, bell pepper, melon, watermelon, raisins, wheat germ, rice, broccoli, lettuce, leeks, pumpkin seeds) and E (sea fish and all seafood, wheat, spinach, sorrel, viburnum, rose hips, prunes, dried apricots).
In addition, you need to eat more fiber – it normalizes intestinal activity, eliminates constipation (if any) and relieves fecal masses, which can put pressure on the female genitourinary organs. This pressure can affect how a woman feels during sex.
If vaginismus is caused by feelings of fear or stress, you should eat foods that calm the nervous system. To do this, it is better to eat vegetables and fruits that have orange and yellow color, replace coffee and strong tea with decoctions of rosehip, lemon balm, motherwort, mint, valerian, chamomile, currant, linden, sea buckthorn. They will help calm down and relieve cramps.
Traditional medicine for vaginismus
Vaginismus is treated with a special program that includes not only exercises, but also psychological foundations.
The first step in healing vaginismus is understanding the problem itself and sorting out from what it could arise. A list of misconceptions will help with this. Most women believe in these myths and do not get treatment for vaginismus. Sometimes because of their inexperience and modesty, sometimes because of the lack of proper sex education.
And so, the first delusion is girls and women whose vaginismus are simply frigid. This is an absolute lie. For most of them, the body responds to bliss and affection. And some were completely happy in a love relationship.
Myth 2 – Vaginismus heals on its own. This is a complete misconception, vaginismus needs to be treated and it is well treated.
People who think that if you have more and more sex, then all the symptoms of vaginismus will go away. In no case. They will only aggravate the situation, because the painful sensations on their own will not go away, but will only turn lovemaking into torture. In the end, the woman will have a complete disgust for this kind of occupation.
Watching films for adults, alcohol, vitamins and calm music will get rid of the disease. Of course, rest and vitamins are useful for the general condition, but they will not help solve the problem if it was caused by some psychological factors. Alcohol can only aggravate the situation if an overly emotional and irritable woman is sick with vaginismus.
Myth 5 – Sex should hurt. Many inexperienced girls may think this is normal. Yes, if this is the first time, then there may be some discomfort and some pain, but not all the time.
Some people think that vaginismus only affects women who have experienced sexual abuse. It’s not like that at all. Sexual abuse is one possible cause, but in reality there are many more.
The next excuse, and at the same time and delusion, is that my husband / boyfriend / partner simply has a large penis. It sounds logical, but the structure of a woman is such that her vagina is designed to penetrate the penis in an erect state of any size. Moreover, women give birth and the baby’s head comes out through the vagina, and it is much wider than the penis. Simply because of excessive contraction and squeezing of the muscles, it becomes difficult to lead into the vagina.
Also, many believe that surgery will help get rid of vaginismus. The operation will help only in extreme cases, for example, with a very dense and non-elastic hymen. But there are very few such cases. Vaginismus responds well to treatment, even at home, with special Kegel exercises. They were developed by a gynecologist and are aimed at ensuring that a woman learns to control her intimate muscles and should develop the habit that something can be in the vagina and this is normal. This is the second stage of treatment.
Let’s start with those exercises that a woman can do on her own without a partner.
The first step is to examine your genitals with a mirror. Examine them carefully, then lightly touch, part your inner labia so that the entrance is visible. Begin to lightly touch your fingertip to the opening of the vagina. Then lubricate the tip of your finger with a special lubricant and try to insert it inside. Leave it on for a while to get used to the feeling of fullness. Try to push down a little, as if trying to get something out of the vagina. Stick out the tip of your finger and try to submerge your finger to the length of the first phalanx, then a little deeper, and so on to the entire length of the finger. These actions may be a little unpleasant due to the experience and excessive muscle tension, but over time, everything should return to normal. To do this, you need to try to squeeze the muscles so that they curl the finger, then they need to be relaxed and tense again. So repeat 5 times. It is at this moment that you realize that you can control your muscles on your own. After successfully completing these exercises, try to repeat everything, too, only using already 2 fingers. These are the basic exercises a woman should do. This is not done in one go and not in one day. Everything should happen gradually. Thus, the fear of penetration will go away, the main thing during sexual intercourse is to warn your man about those fears that you have overcome, so that he knows that he needs to be more careful.
If you have a husband or partner, then in the next step, you can build on your success. To do this, repeat all the above recommendations, but only with male fingers. At the same time, it is important that the woman fully opens up to the man and speaks, if necessary, about stopping or suspending classes so that the man cannot hurt.
And as the final stage in getting rid of vaginismus – sexual intercourse. For the first time, it is better to lubricate the penis with lotion and before starting to move, it is better to hold the penis just inside the vagina for a while, so that the woman can get used to this sensation.
The next time, you can start not fast jerks (fictions) and gradually increase and slow down, depending on the need and preferences.
After that, you can start a full sexual intercourse. It is best for the woman to be in the riding position. Thus, she will be able to regulate the depth of penetration, the pace of movements.
It is worth remembering that these exercises can last for about two weeks. You shouldn’t experience everything at once in one day. It is better not to rush, but gradually increase the depth of penetration and consolidate the success. In order not to use your fingers, there are special sets in which there are different sizes and lengths of shells that can be used in turn.
You also need to use muscle relaxation aids. It the third stage of vaginismus treatment… To relieve excess muscle tension, you need to run, ride a bike, swim and take a contrast shower.
It is useful to give a woman an intimate massage before intercourse. You need to start it with light stroking movements that flow into rubbing. Only then can you start massaging your legs, feet, abdomen, chest, thighs.
For a calming effect, it is best to use an incense lamp or incense sticks. You can use chamomile, lavender, neroli, marjoram, lemon mint oils. In addition, these oils can be used for massage, baths and compresses. They perfectly relieve muscle spasms.
For a calming effect, you should drink decoctions from ginger root, sacred vitex berries, viburnum.
Attention!
As soon as you find out about the signs of vaginismus, seek medical help from a gynecologist or sexologist. They will describe in detail your further actions in the fight against this ailment.
Dangerous and harmful foods for vaginismus
- strongly brewed tea;
- alcoholic beverages;
- coffee;
- fatty foods, fast food, pastry and trans fats.
These products have a stimulating effect on the psyche. If they are consumed by women with an unstable nervous system (nervous, agitated, anxious and restless individuals), then their feeling of fear will increase, neurosis will begin. This will worsen the condition and increase muscle contraction.
Attention!
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